Hello Mr.TAJOBSINDIA,
The referenced article is one sided as it talks only about what Indian men should stand up for before he decides to marry. Such articles should also talk about what Indian woman should stand up for before she decides to marry. If we keep discussing men and women separately then we will continue to break our institution of marriage.
So, I captured here 10 points that Indian woman should stand up for before she decides to marry.
1. The dowry isn't always given by either torturing or by subtler demands. The father of the woman who is a rich should STOP giving dowry just to show off his financial status. Such fathers keep creating wrong examples in our society.
2. It is the woman who prefer taller man. So, they love a taller handsome man and then marry a rich innocent men to enslave and rob him off his money. Let women STOP treating men as ATMs.
3. Let the parents of the woman STOP giving unsolicited false promises of financial gifts just to get their daughter married. Let the woman and her parents show courage to express their marriage expectations clearly upfront. Like a man and his family express wish that their daughter-in-law should stay with her husband and in laws, if a woman will not live with her husband's parents, she should be bold enough to state that before marriage and should not state it after marriage via 498A.
4. Many Women spend more on beauty parlour than men spend on their once-in-a-lifetime event "marriage". Let woman STOP spending huge money on beauty parlours. If they are courage enough, the woman should portray her inner-self as woman rather than trying to look beautiful from outside.
5. Changing the second name after marriage is our custom and if a woman does want, let it be. That is not a big deal. But let the women STOP degrading the good name that her husband and his parents have earned so far among their relatives and friends.
6. Yes ours is not a true equal marriage. Because the woman's parents just give their daughter for the marriage. But the boy's parents give the boy, themselves as parents and a great home to live for their daughter-in-law. We should make the marriage equal. Let the woman's parents STOP giving up their responsibility and should treat their son-in-law respectfully who is going to be partner of his wife for the rest of the life.
7. God has created 2 genders in this world. And every gender has its unique characteristics.What is the shame in being a gender that one was born with? One should feel proud of their capabilities of being perform in a unique way due to their gender. This should be respected and not humiliated. Let the woman STOP feeling ashamed of a being woman or being a home maker. They should feel proud and the society should respect it. A woman should not behave like man to prove her equality with man. A woman should be able to behave like a woman and a man like man and that is true equality.
8. If a woman thinks she is not marrying for having kids, then she should be bold enough to state it before the marriage. Let women STOP pleasing men to get married first and then use gender biased laws to enslave men.
9. The many mental marital rapes that woman do to man are not coming out more in public. Let the men STOP feeling bad about it and start reporting how they are being misused by their wives.
10. Let the woman STOP giving lies and false promises that they will be "great home maker" after marriage. If they want to be more of "money earning career oriented person" than "being a homely home maker", let them be open about it before marriage.
