Hi ,
4 years back I got married, she has been completely influenced by her father, she is immature & arrogant whatever we discuss (including husband & wife secrets) she shares with her father, whatever her father says it is a laxmana rekha to her. He never respects us, as I observed ,their family lives in different fantasy, for them husband & his family members are villains, whatever we say they blindly refuse.
Whatever she says I have to accept, she never respects my mother & sisters, my mother lives in my home town, if she accepts then only I should invite them to my house, for small issues also she never ever compromises if I tried to convince her in any matter at one stage she always went into abnormal stage and starts shouting then finally she always threatens me by suicide attempts. Undoubtedly she has some psychological problem.
From day 1 she has been threatening me by suicide attempts, I informed to her father many times about her suicide attempts, but he always blindly support her daughter , it is been 4 years , with lot of patience I have been living and trying to change her but didn’t succeed, since she continuously threatening in between I left her into her parents home and denied to take her back after a week they approached my brother in law for compromising , that time my brother in law asked them to write a letter that she will never threaten again by suicide attempts, and they agreed and written letters too.
But only one month she kept quite then after it’s a dog’s tail, all of my neighbors also well aware of her behavior.
Recently she went to her parent’s home and filed a harassment complaint on me in a police station, when I receive a call I was shocked as she is actually harassing me by doing all these things, so I went to police station and explained everything but she says I am lying, so I asked them to enquire about facts.
After 2 days I came to know by my neighbors that her father & police person came and enquired, police person didn’t inform me but he came along with her father, however since my neighbors well aware about the facts so they clearly mentioned about her behavior, screaming and suicide attempts.
Since my wife is pregnant now her father expected that neighbors will tell positively about her but thankfully they told only facts which my father-in law didn’t expect. I am a soft nature so none of my neighbors told any negative on me.
After a week again I receive a call from police station so I went there but shocked because inspector mentioned that she is innocent and complete problem is with me only, I shocked, he started talking with me in police language and mentioned that she will come back after delivery and I should accept without any condition when I questioned him why she is ready to come back when I am harassing, he shouted on me in their language and took stick to beat me as well.
I didn’t understand what to do so I came back to home, our family is well respected family in the society and don’t have any knowledge/experience on these things...
Legally what should I do? One of my friend suggests to send a divorce notice to her, with the frustration I have now i can send but I am thinking about children’s future, we have 2 years kid and she is pregnant now, why should they suffer because of our inability to solve the issues. Is there a way to solve the issue rather breaking the relationship?
If I compromise now, that’s it undoubtedly she feels that she got a good weapon to control me and my rest of life would be hell.
Request you to provide your valuble advice on this.
Thank you,
venkat.
