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Ramachandran (Vedic Scholar)     02 December 2014

Divorce! and maifenance

A  newly wedded couple, where the wife is a PG from top prestigious institute, well employed,  EARNING MORE THAN THE HUSBAND (THREE TIMES) , married a boy by force from her parents and expecting he may be rich. But   he is not rich but qualification is not bad, Not spent much for marriage and no jewel was given to the bride, not even bed and cot, even no plate was given to the daughter, came to grooms house with one  saree and two salwars (As she expected the husband will give) She studied the situation and harsh husband  and never permitted him to unite, but the boy took her to hill stations and spent all his savings hoping to attract her, but she never accepted. She works in North India and the boy resides in South India. For the wedding they spent Rs4,00,000 and they tell their relatives that they spent Rs15,00,000. On deepavali day the boy went to his in laws house, but the fa and mo in law questioned about his property. All three abused him . The boy returned home and told her parents every thing. Since his parents are not much educated and they were in last decade they are afraid of a divorced case. According to them, the wife may demand a million rupees as compensation plus monthly maintenance  charges. The marriage was held in April as per hindu law and registered. Once the boy lost his temper and shouted if  he didn't get a divorce he will end his life. These people are from an average family, not rich but with culture!

How to approach this situation? and what  law quotes for this kind of harassment  by this lady. 



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Ending life cowards do.  Dont do like that.  You dont know value of life.  Go to some hospital who has been chronically ill, ask him or her value of life, and they will tell you how precious life is.

Well, you first have se x with wife.  That one thing you do, trick her into it, use mango juice mixed with vodka, do it.  Get her pregnant.  Once seed goes inside.  She will change.  Bonding improves.  Attachment increase.


These are initial hiccups in every marriage. 


Try to remain cool and calm all the time.  Have se x with wife, that solve most of the problems.

SuperHero (Manager)     03 December 2014

 

@Ramchandran - Helping Hand advices are valuable.

One question wavers my mind is - Doesn't the girl know before marriage how rich the boy is? The Girls are very intelligent. They will know everything before the marriage.

Does the boy trust the girl and vice-versa? Do they have Love and Affection. Thats all it matters....

Ask the Boy to grow up and act like Men. Only Cowards go for suicide and who are not mentally strong.

On one side of the World - People are in fear of dangerous diseases and other side millitants are literally killing and raping.

Read this how pathetic the situation is

https://fox4kc.com/2014/10/23/young-yazidi-woman-begs-to-be-bombed-ive-been-raped-30-times-and-its-not-even-lunch-time/

Lot of information in Marriage builders..which might be helpful....

https://www.marriagebuilders.com/

If you read Natarajan sir's post there are some Weapons which will Work - Patience, Tolerance and Silence.

Pray to God with Love and Devotion.

1) Maunam Sarvartha Sadhakam: 

This is a well-known saying: ‘
मौनं सर्वार्थ साधिके’ 
`maunam sarvartha sadhakam' Yes, silence has the power to convey all meaning. 

There is a Kannada saying, ‘summaniru manave, nee brahmanaguve’ 
The meaning is ‘Remain quiet, O mind, you will become Brahman.’ 

‘mounam bhajaswa’, (pratice silence). 


मौनं करोति maunaM karoti Observe silence 

मौनं करोति maunaM karoti Hold one's tongue 

मौनमेव उचितम् maunam eva ucitam Better be quiet. 

मौनं पश्यति Mounam Pazyati observe silence 

Be silent yourself, that will induce silence in others. Do not fall into the habit of shouting, talking long and loud. Carry with you an atmosphere of quiet contemplation, wherever you happen to be. 

Words are essential in the beginning but they recede to the background in the culminating stage of sadhana. 

Choice is always yours......

 


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