Tip 1: What you focus on makes a difference. What are you focusing on?
Tip 2: Your attitude towards your life and everything around you makes the difference between contentment and dissatisfaction. Is your attitude negative or positive?
Tip 3: Developing gratitude for what you do have instead of focusing on what you don't have, is a source of great happiness. List 10 things to be thankful for.
Tip 4. Kindness can lead to confidence. When you are kind to someone you can feel good. When you feel good your confidence increases.. Who will you be kind to today?
Tip 5. Look at the problems others have. If you feel miserable or are thinking badly of yourself, ask yourself, "Would you rather be living in Iraq or where you are?" Always keep your own problems in perspective for greater happiness.
Tip 6. Say thank you. Thank the people around you for the kind things they do for you. It doesn't have to be a big thing, they may just have made you a cup of tea or called you. Give thanks. Write down ten things you can thank people for today.
Tip 7. Generosity without expecting anything in return can lead to confidence. When you are generous to someone you can feel good. When you feel good your confidence increases. Who will you be generous to today?
Tip 8. Think kindly of yourself. What you think can knock your confidence or increase it. Write down 5 things you have done well today.
Tip 9. Praise someone. Look at people and find something nice to say about them. Have this as your focus. When you find something good about them tell them. When you bring pleasure to someone else your confidence is being nourished too.
Tip 10. Change your feelings don't just give into them. If you feel down, or discouraged or inadequate shift your feelings. They don't have to control you. Recall and relive some positive happy times so your confidence returns and you feel better.
Tip 11. Giving to people who are less well off than you are can help you appreciate how lucky you really are. When you feel lucky your confidence and happiness grow. Who will you give to today?
Tip 12. Create peace and quiet inside. Find a place to simply sit and be. Stop the rushing. Quit from being busy. Just be. It is only in silence we can truly hear the wisdom that is within each of us.
Create the causes for your own confidence and happiness. Let no-one take them away from you. May joy be in your heart throughout 2009 and may you be confident.