Hello All,
I am from Andhra Pradesh. I am going thru really tough phase in my life and so I need your advice. It's all due to my wife and her parents.
I got married 2.5 yrs ago. But not even for 3 months we lived together. I was not at all interested in marrying her.
When I went to her house with my parents to see the girl for the first time, she was ok but after 1 month when I saw her, I did not like her.
There was a gap of more than a year between this and marriage. In that 1 year I told my wife many times that I am not interested in marrying her.
Then she said that she going to die if I am not going to marry her. As she said like this many times, I felt pity for her and got married and thought I can adjust with her some how.
After 2 weeks from the date of marriage, I left to US. In that 2 weeks time, when I touched her, she took a knife and threatened me that she is going to kill herself if I touch her.
At that time she was pursuing her final year degree and said that she is going to join me in US once the exams are over. Her exams got over and when I asked her to join me, she said that she does not want to come to US and if I am interested in her, she demanded me to come to India. It happened like this for more than a year.
When I was in US, I use to get many calls from her and her parents that her health condition is bad due to bleeding problem. So, I came back to India to look after her.
Her self and her mother forced me like anything to participate in intercourse even though she has this bleeding problem. As she was suffering with this problem, I don't want to participate in intercourse with her and I said the same thing to her, her mother.
Due to this, she insulted me in front of a bunch of people that I am an impotent. I got deeply hurted due to this.
After coming back to India, when I took her to a doctor I came to know about her health problems. She has many health problems. My in-laws cheated me. Before marriage itself they knew about their daughter's health problem and inability to give birth to a child.
When I informed her mother about her daughter's health problem and inability to produce a child, she literally said that they knew about all these problems before marriage itself.
Doctor suggested that she has to undergo many operations in order to produce a child. Even after the operation the chances of producing a child are very less, doctor said.
After the medical tests, her mother took her to their native place and till now she did not return. This happened some 9 months back.
My wife's family has criminal back ground and my wife's mother said that they are going to kill me and my family if I am going to give divorce to my wife. I am very much worried.
I want to get separated with her.
Can I take a divorce with the above mentioned grounds? Please suggest.
After marriage, continuously for 14 months I did not live with my wife. And now from last 9 months I am not living with her.
Kindly let me know when can I apply for divorce. Is it better if I apply after 3 months so that the desertion will be continuous for one year.