Need suggestion on divoce

Really it is very hard time in  your life but dont bother b brave, divorce is not a solution for making life happy. i think if u really want to move in court, u should consult with your parents or any other friend so that they can help you after intiating court proceedings. moreover go to local court and take advise any reputed advocate for filing petition under section 125 crpc for maintenace if u r willing to leave his house. u can also file application under domestic violence act.

I think Mr. Saxena guided u well. 

My opiniuon, though i dislike breaking home, I feel, in ur case, it is reqd. 

 

No one will suffer, if u go for Divorce, as u r capable to earn 60k pm, and no kid. 

u had long affair of 8 yrs as u say, so even after 10 yrs fr, this is the stage, immediately go to ur parents home, live separate, join ur job, get good advise from ur parents, and well wisher. 

 

Then if all agree, file MCD & divorce him.

no claim, nothing, You stll can claim after divorce. if needed. 

Be happy first, Also be safe, as no kid, ur life can be endangered.

"My marriage was a love marriage, my husband loved my for 8 years before marriage later we decided to marry"

My question to you are:

what you have decided after 8 years i am not understand. story is incomplete why he doubt ?

why he is so possesive? is he loves you lot or something else?

how was your relation during 8 year relationship?

stranged that you never understand him in 8 years? is it a very short time to understand the personality of a man?

Anyways Please give him divorce and let him live..marriage is dissolve almost.

try to sort things amicably or part ways.

 

Regards,

 

Shonee Kapoor

harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

thank you for your reply sir,

Here my concerned is If my husband is coming forward to give me the divoce as mutually,

1)  should i consider it, or should I  file the harrassment complaint on him,  as am suffering so much mentally and physically wil i be able to let him easy divoce through mutually.

2) will I be able to claim my damages for last two years of my marriage.

3) as he is a businees man and am also a part of his business, and he is 32 and am 27.  How much i can  claim for damages and ful and final compensation.

Dear Forum , Please rely to my queries

thank you,

Tamana.

from Bangalore

Tamanna,

The problem with the cases like you is we can solve your problem upto your satisfaction, but the real culprit goes away laughing at us all and find out another victim to fulfill his sadistic pleasures.  You file a complaint (I suppose Section 498-A), later on dragging the case for six months to one year, after getting assurance of reasonable compensation, you accept for mutual consent divorce petition.  you get unwilling divorce in your hand and compensation for the harassment you faced.  But the real culprit got away trumpeting in the whole society, that you misused section 498-A and extracted amount from him.  That is the thing happening every day.  The men, who compromise with the wife and pay compensation and get away with mutual consent go on propogating the misuse of section 498-A by women. 

So, my suggestion is:

If you do not want to continue marriage relationship with him, go for mutual consent divorce, if the proposal comes from his side.  Accept the monetary compensation for the harassment you met.

But do not condone the Section 498-A offence.  Let the case reach its logical conclusions.  Do not accept a condition that you withdraw section 498-A case by accepting financial compensation and mutual divorce.

This advise is not just for you, but  for all the women, who met physical and  mental harassment, but condoned such cruelty by accepting the mutual consent divorce petition by accepting some amount.  All your cases will be treated as misuse of Section 498-A and brand all of you as extortionists.     

@tamnana :- 1)  should i consider it, or should I  file the harrassment complaint on him,  as am suffering so much mentally and physically wil i be able to let him easy divoce through mutually.

What u want exactly? if u harrassed so much get rid off from the harrassment.. luckily your partner is giving u MCD so go for it and live ur life independetly with dignified way.

2) will I be able to claim my damages for last two years of my marriage.

totally depend on juridiciary.. if u really faced so much harassment and able to prove in cour u will definitely..

3) as he is a businees man and am also a part of his business, and he is 32 and am 27.  How much i can  claim for damages and ful and final compensation.

it is non predictable:) all depends on ur lawyer and circumstances ;)

If he is coming forward for MCD, why you want to complicate the things by filing harassment case? It could turn counter-productive Regards, Shonee Kapoor harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

Tamanna,

If any one steals your bag and you catch him and recover your bag, do you leave him like that or handover him to police?  He is an offender and he should be punished.  The same logic applies here.  If husband offers for MCD, he is planning to harass some other lady mentally and physically by marrying some other girl.  So accept the MCD but let the culprit face his punishment so that he will not adventure to put another lady in a miserable condition like you are facing right now.  The women are so tolerant, that is why in every strata of our society, from centuries till date, physical and mental harassment is going on in urban as well as rural India, in the richest classes to middle class to poorest sections of society.  A trend has started that you beat your wife and offer MCD and some amount permanent alimony and preach her not to pursue criminal case as life is short and one has to live it.  Once this happens, put false allegation against  her for misusing Section 498-A and call her extortionist.  This attitude is perpetrating crime against women.

warm regards,