Hey Mohit,
You wrote that "they think they r in a stronger position". That is not at all true.
In reality, they have very severe inferiority complex of themselves and hence want to pull you and your parents down to their level.
If they file divorce case, they may get divorce and money from you.
But their daughter will loose her dignified married life for ever.
You are not alone.
Myself and hundreds of other innocent men across Indian cities are going through the same pain every day.
The girls and their parents are following this as a formula.
The formula is :
"Harass and humiliate the boy and his parents to control and enslave them.".
If you and your family fall for it, then the wives start demanding whatever they want.
To do this, they start leaving matrimonial home and start living with their parents.
They are checking your nerves.
They want to know how much you are committed to this marriage.
They want to know how much harassment you are able to bear.
Once you adjust for X level of harassment, they will then execute 2X level of harasment and so on.
If you express your anger and frustration, they will do anything to make you more angry and frustrate you to drain your energy and thinking capacity.
Their harassment will be directly proportional to how much weak and committed you are to this marriage.
Now you have a child. Now your wife and parents will feel "top of the world".
Because they think they can harass you more whenever you want to see your own child.
As long as you are good and committed, YOU SHOULD EXPECT THE SAME FROM YOUR WIFE AND HER PARENTS.
DO NOT FALL FOR THEIR DIRTY FORMULA. Follow the steps below and STAY CALM, COOL and COMPOSED all the time.
- Never ever accept for a middle men to sort out this issue.
- Always demand her parents to bring her daughter to your house,
if they are committed for the good life for their daughter.
- You can tell your wife to return whenever she thinks you are important for her.
- Till then, do not give any financial help. Let them file police complaint if they want.
- Buy a good smart phone and start recording all conversations with your wife and her father.
- Get a smartphone to your father also so that he starts recording conversation with your in-laws.
- Expose your in-laws to their relatives, neighbors and their office colleagues.
- If they file case, you can submit all these conversation proof to expose their cruelty.
- If you get any hint that they are going to file any police complaint, you file a complaint before them.
- When you file complaint, produce all the voice recording proofs.
If finally one day, you lose all trust on your wife and yourself to save this marriage,
you can submit all these voice recording and apply for divorce based on cruelty.
According to law experts, it should be relatively easier to get divorce with good proof.
As I understand, it seems you want to save this marriage. That is very good.
You can show at most patience to save your marriage without loosing your dignity.
But do not expose your patience as a WEAKNESS. You are not weak. They are pathetically weak.
As long as you are good and committed, YOU SHOULD EXPECT THE SAME FROM YOUR WIFE AND HER PARENTS.
As long as you are good and committed, YOU SHOULD EXPECT THE SAME FROM YOUR WIFE AND HER PARENTS.
As long as you are good and committed, YOU SHOULD EXPECT THE SAME FROM YOUR WIFE AND HER PARENTS.
No compromise on this.
