Myself Deepak, working as an engineer in a private firm,got married on 4th
August 2006.I had an affair with my wife for about 1.5 yrs before
marraige. During that period the relationship was quite pleasent then but
few months before I experienced some incidents with her which made me felt
that she does not like my parents very much, but at times she was also
good to them. Inspite of that I married her coz she was always supportive
during my hard times.After marraige we shifted to Bangalore and then we
went to my native place for throwing reception party. After that I kept
her at her native place as her father was sick and I returned to
Bangalore.
After about 2 weeks of my return I came to know that she is pregnent. So I
asked her to stay back at her native place for few more months. In her 4th
month of pregnency she came to Bangalore and stayed here again for few
months and finally returned to her native town for delivery.During her
stay at Bangalore we had a good times in general.
On August 17th'2007 she gave birth to my son.I was in Switzerland for a
week (due to my official trip) till 15th of Aug and returned to Bangalore
on 17th morning. I had a scheduled visit to her native town(Guwahati)on
17th itself. Her delivery was actually scheduled for 21st Aug but that
happened 2 days before.Anyway I was on time in reaching her native place.
After the birth of my son some incidents made me feel that she is not
willing to keep my baby close to my family members and friends. Instead
she wants to keep the baby close to her family members (father, sister and
other relatives). Anyway after some days I came back to Bangalore to
resume my job.Then I had experienced more incidents which made me feel
that she is not willing to keep my baby close to my family members(my
parents, relatives) and friends. Instead she wants to keep the baby close
to her family members (father, sister and other relatives). Her elder
sister who is also married but does not have any kids.Multiple incidents
happened when she declared that she wants to bring up our son at her
native place (infact her father's house) and her sister& she herself will
bring up my son.
Inspite of the above, I arranged a ceremony at my native town (on 17th
January'2008) on the occasion of first rice intake by the baby. My wife
along with my son arrived at my hometown 2-3 fays before. Since then she
arrived at my hometown she started fighting/arguing/ showing bad behaviour
towards my family members for silly reasons and some past reasons.And just
one day before the function she ran away from my house without informing
anyone and went to her native place (creating issue and fighting with my
family members and me and she also said that there was a theft case in her
house). After that the incident came to light and lot of third persons
knew about the incident. That time some annonymus persons also said me
that she was earlier married to other person before me and her ex-husband
died out of cancer. She was basically widow before marrying me. Still I
never trusted these words nor tried to find out the truth of these words.
But if that is the case she has cheated on me. After few days she decided
to come back to Bangalore and finally on August28th'2008 she along with my
son came to Bangalore. But before comming to Bangalore I made certain
terms and conditions with her which she needs to follow in future (which
is documented and in my email inbox), as things went out of my tolerance
level but also want my baby to be with me.During her stay at Bangalore now
we never had any probs. I also used to give her whateva possible she asked
and always tried to be good to her. But I found sometimes that she drinks
alchohol often, though I tried not to encourage her on this habit. As a
part of my job I need to go to Switzerland for 6 mons to 1 year in Nov'08.
I asked her and she also agreed to travel with me and stay there for 3
mons. In that case passport of my baby is also required. I was in the
start of process of making my son's passport, then on 8th Sept she said
her father is seriously ill. But in the same time her expression did not
make me feel that way and she was quite calm. I was upset with that and
said that she can go on Oct 1st week, as I am in the process of making
passport and the baby's prasence is also reqd. then she started arguing
with me and then I said her that she can go but she has to leave the baby
here with me untill I also go to native town in 1st week of Oct. She then
went arrogant and started saying her father wants to see the baby. Then
next day i.e. 10th Sept when I went to office she again left the house
without informing me and booked the flight tickets and went to her native
town. I came to know bout the incident once I returned from office. 2 days
passed she didnt even informed me about my baby or either they reached
home safely. (though I came to know from third person that she reached
home safely) She also kept her mobile phone switched off. There are no
other members in family apart from her sick father with whom I cannot
contact and hersister with whom I dont want to. But things had went worse
for me and now probably I need to give her divorce. And most important if
I give divorce then will I get the custody of my son in this case.
