First thing first - Got married in Patna in Jan 2012.
At the time of my marriage I was working (as a recruiter in a private firm in Bangalore).
After my marriage I left my wife to “mayke” in Patna. And came to Bangalore to report to my company. That time I was staying with my elder brother since our another house (which is there on my father`s name) was getting ready to be occupied it took some time.
I asked my wife to wait for some time, say another 15 days…but they (My sas and my wife`s cousin) became impatient and brought my wife to Bangalore, where I was staying with my brother and elder sis-in law.
Then after some days we (Me, my wife, my mom and dad) moved to our new home. From there I continued my work but since I am more interested in teaching I decided to change my profession and for the same, I left my job sat at home, and started preparing for NET exam from April 2012 till now.
After leaving my job in April when I sat at home in order to prepare for exam, my wife`s attitude started changing towards me, and my parents. Every 2-3 days she used to raise an issue and started fighting with us. During all this days she was in a regular touch with her mother through mobile SMS and basically her mother use to guide here what you do and don’t . In May her mother lied that she was in coma and she wants to see her daughter in an immediate basis. That time somehow we arranged her to go to Patna.
In Aug 2012, I took her to Mysore for a day visit. To cool her down but nothing changed in regards to her behavior and she kept her enemy like behavior towards her. Rather she started demanding new new things daily. Around Oct end for the second time again she started arranging for a tatkaal ticket for going to Patna (for chatt and dipawali). Since trail tickets was available only in the month of Dec. 2012, I booked for that, but she got very adamant and threatened us and she will to go to Patna before depawali or she will jump from 5th floor and die.
We got a bit scared, spoke with her mother and father on phone and even and handover her to one of the guy which I did not know who he was as I met him for the first time in my life , but she claimed him a friend of her another cousin.
After she went in Nov. 2012, there wasn’t any communication from either side. In Feb 2013, we(me+my parents) came back to our home town from Bangalore thinking that this is the high time, if they aren’t speaking we should go to them and speak.
The real drama starts in the month of March 2013 when my parents (as a senior person) went to my wife`s mayke in Patna, to have a talk and solve the issue. There they put numbers of issue on me and my parents, that we were not keeping her in a good condition, I am not earning, etc. etc. My father-in-law also stated that “whatever happens we are not sending her back”.
On knowing my Mayke’s intention we said OK to them, and asked him to proceed for Divorce. And in a mutual 2nd meeting (between my parents and my father in law) they agreed on 5 Lakh alimony. When my father asked him for proceed for joint petition for divorce and take the money of 5 Lakhs on the final day, my father in law turned back and asked my father first to transfer 5 Lakhs to his account only then he will do the necessary legal things. But we have decided to give the alimony amount only though legal way.
On advice of advocates in we have filed an informatory report and sec. 9 which advocate said they are for my betterment and support in case of AB if it is needed. And this notice they are holding for some time and not provoking my in laws to file any case. Till date they have not filed any case against us.
Again we are in a cold war mode and just waiting for call from my in-laws side. even i want to take divorce with my wife. There isn`t any point staying with her for the while life if her attitude in not matching. on the other side i am afraid of 498 a , and warrents and if i dont get an AB,,then going to jail without ant reason.
Please help me what should we do in this case....???
Regards
