Reconciliation

if she will ready to live with her husband, then she will attn the counselling at the time of proccessing her case, at the time she and her husband to tell ready to live with her, or she wont to live with her husband then go court proccessdings

hi..thanx for reply..

But the issue is now she is scared as she had filed 498a and they were arrested..and before any1 comments on it..i wud like 2 say that IT WAS A TRUE 498A case..(she was truely tortured)

SO nw she is scared as whether her husband is really loving her and want 2 giv a ssecond chance or he is taking a revenge..

also, some muslim ppl say ,,the divorce is done and some say its not done..what to do?

they are not on talking terms..so how does she find out.. can court counselling help..does counselling help couples to live seperately without parents interference?is it possible?

plz help..

I doubt the above query, i think lawhands is asking on behalf of himself/herself. How can you say it " WAS A TRUE 498A CASE"  Whatever may be, i would like to express here-

Once 498A filed by wife, If false (most of them are false), definitely the husband will not come to wife or allow her to be with him. 

Ok, even if true, it will be a big risk in future too for husband to face criminal cases. Hence here too, there is less chances of taking back wife, even by reconcillation. 

498A has never joined families(even if it is a true case), it only has been breaking families. THIS IS THE DICTUM.

Once 498a filed, just look for divorce. I dont see any future in this marriage even by reconcillation. 

HE must be going to teach her a lesson, risk of life and limb..........

Hi Thanx all for reply
I wud like 2 ask a simple quesn..why wud a girl resort to court/police if things are
sorted out amicably?
its only when the party isnt ready 2 even compromise a bit then girl thinks of such things..

Besides i wud like 2 brief u about this girls story!!
During theses 9 mnths all attempts of reconcile were tried!! THRU relatives,counselor etc..
But even after that the boys family wasnt ready 2 budge!!
initially this guy dint attend ounselling sessions..throwing attitude!!
later on after 2 sessions when counsellor identified few probs and solution- this guy wasnt ready
2 accept!!! let me tell u in this case the counsellor was a professional and from boy's side itself..
Still when he suggested few alternatives- the boys family refused..besides the boy wanted the girl and her family 2 come say sorry and touch nose dwn at his parents feet!!!
Is this justified?
the fact is when girls bow dwn u men make them bow and insult to lowest levels!!!
u say u cannot become slaves of wife and leav them ,then why do u  expect the same from a woman????

the girls family were ready for reconcile also..and if things dint work out then they said
lets seperate amicably!!!
but guys family wasnt ready 2 return or seperate amicably also!! instead they taught him 2 keep her
langering for few mnths and divorce!!!

the answer is simple -- when men dnt understand simple language of relatives,counsellor,  and use
divorce as a sword 2 kill women --thats d reason laws like 498 are in place!!!
and when a woman uses it- the men cry as if big deal!!

nw back 2 ur quesn!!!
yes i know dis story so well becoz the girl ismy cousin sister and childhud frnd and also the
boy is my cousin brother and childhud frnd!!!
so i had d liberty nd chance of analysing nd listening both sides of story~~and thats d reason
i said its a true 498 case!! any more doubts on dat?

now being a cousin of both!! i dont want things 2 blow out so badly!

so what nw if things are in court? is it that courts ar only for breakups??

is der any way out? cant my sis and bro live 2geder happily?

becoz i cant see dem both go thru d pain..

in my opinion... the girl should simply get divorce charging a lumpsum alimony... and forget  it.. start life afresh.when 498A is filed then why going back... and I cannot understand why the girls think themselves that they are so helpless ... they can do evertthing they want..... so build up your confidence .. and fight the case for one time alimony. not maintance on a monthly  basis.

in muslim marriages husband take upper hands, as they get talaq as and when it required.

498a and dv applicable on mohamedan mariages also.

if husband agrees then reconciliation will work otherwise not.

' u say u cannot become slaves of wife and leav them ,then why do u  expect the same from a woman????'

THIS IS NOT THE PROPER LANGUAGE.

IF YOU WANT TO URGUEMENT WITH SOMEONE THAT IS SEPARATE.

besides he ws threatening 2 remarry..

HE LEGALL CAN DO IT.

is divorce done as per muslim law?

if the marriage held under mohamedan law then talaq available but if under special marriage act, talaq not available.

please read legally instead of LEGALL

498a, dv creats pressure upon a man and a little bowdown possible but a muslim girl can not bowdown her husband as a hindu girl can.

therefore if you do not want to keep the family then a little compromise with him is required but if you feel to destroy the relation then just leave the relationship. 498a and dv will be continuing even after talaq.

You need not try to justify the pro-women laws. Every one know how they are mis-used these days. Even supreme court to the trail court know the actual situation regarding such laws being mis-used. Supreme court has termed it as LEGAL TERRORISM. If you are speaking on behalf (hope so) of the couple, then restrict your post to there itself. If you are argueing about the genders, then i have other valid points. Do you think what you heard from your ? cousin? friend (what ever) is total truth, nothing but the truth!