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Originally posted by : anu agarwal |
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@Born fighter thanks for suggestion....
@helping hand i m happy to see ur rply but can u pls tell me who told u i filled 498a on my husband ...you should think once before rply on any post in such a taunting way we all are here for seeking help not to giving taunts on othrs problm ...
I am surprised to see such rply from you cozbu always guided evryone point to point i can understnd u face this kind of daily drama but this is true my cousin is running her home from last 8yrs having 5yrs old daughtr my jiju is jobless they having one bedroom flat he use to stay all time at home u cant imagine his daughter always ask a simple qustion to her mom tht mummy sabka papa office jata hai mera kyu nai jate ....
Hope u wil try to undrstnd and wil not make fun ...
Rest is jaisi jiski soch....
Family is big strength of anyone not money...
I m here just to knw remedy for the problm of my cousin not to agru with anyone. |
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What is this then dear?
https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/details.asp?quote=462830&mod_id=104124#reply
https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/details.asp?quote=462883&mod_id=104124#reply
I have filled a case against my husband and mother in law U/S 341/323/114 of IPC on 5th January 2014 in local PS .
Incomplete query. There is no history explained. You just told he left, wrote letter took money, told no need to search for him. That's the reason you get such answers. Nobody is taunting at nobody here. How the query is, is will be the reply too.
Even in your case, you filed above complaint. Whatever might be the issue, one can involve a friend in between husband and wife, a relative, parents, elders, all ok. But not police. Those are for criminals, thieves, people who are found on the other side of the law. My opinion would be that, one should never take things to such a stage wherein you expect help from police. You should resolve your issues amicably within 4 walls. So beautifully you have written the reply above, you are educated, you can comprehend things very much. But why did you have to go to police? I do not advocate men hitting their wife. But it always takes two to tango. So whatever reason you give as to why your husband hit you in a Police Station, does not suffice for you to give complaint against your own husband. Marriage is one place where even if its not your fault, it become your fault no matter what you do and have to say. Its 50:50 sharing. Be it happiness or sorrow or blame. Thats the price one has to pay for getting married.
In case of your sister. My opinion is that, there are many couples where the wife is not working, is at home not doing a job. And there are many a couple where the husband has decided to be at home and asked wife to do job outside and run family. These things run on basis of understanding. Agreed "Udyogam purushalakshanam". But one has to think the other way round. Kids wont understand all this, they will just compare with other dads. But wife has to manage all that, not taunt at husband for not having job, not interested in going out for work, not interested in earning money, that too in front of children, that will cause ganging up against the man, children tell it out of ignorance, wife joins and taunts, this goes on for years and one day fed up the man goes out of the house leaving letter to wife and others.
One has to think before opening mouth a hundred times. Relationships are very vulnerable. They are very delicate. That Phat you say something, there are chances that it may damage a persons mind and let create a opinion which cannot be changed in a lifetime.
You people come with lots of problems, some solvable, some unsolvable, some very complicated. In this case of your sister's the husband has gone somewhere in a planned way, not to return at all. If there are players, one can suggest, do this, do that. One player ran away dear. What about the game? No game anymore. Either your sister should go in search of him, convince him and bring him come back. and when he comes back, stop taunting. Again, she can hire services of some detective. But do not approach police. If she approach police, they put paper notification. Missing. In post office, railway station, bus stand, airport. All that is disgraceful. Or else do one thing contact police and see you can get someone to help without filing FIR.
Again, all these problems occur in marriage only because one do not treat the other spouse as their own. Its your own wife, its your own husband. Others, ie parents, relatives friends are not yours. Only your spouse is yours. If you all think and act accordingly, as one, there will be no need for divorce lawyers at all in the world.
Thats what, now sister should go in search of husband, hold him, apologize, bring him back, or be prepared to face the future without a husband. And the future is quite bleak and is going to be very very complicated as I see it.
Both you and your sister give it another try before calling it quits. You need not necessarily agree with my opinion, but its your husband, your life anyway. You may be surprised how I remember your previous query. Once I reply to a query, I remember it very well. All the best.
