I am 59 years old and working in a semi-govt company and getting retired in Dec 2014. I have wife and 2 sons (1st - 20 years old MBA final year and 2nd - studying in 10th class). We are living in company provided house from past 16-17 years. No pension I will get, But I will be getting retirement money from my company in Dec.
My entire family life has not been smooth, as my wife always took money in bits from me, whenever there is a festival, used to go to her home frequently with kids, and keeps on asking me money and spending it in eatables and other useless things. I never used to give lump-sum amount for home spending, as I used to take care of house-hold living things, like kitchen rashan, clothing and fees of kids.
Now in Aug month, I have got letter from court, as a case from my wife.
Following are some of the key points of the case:
a) That I (husband) has not kept care of her and kids, and that her brother has been guardian for her and kids, taking care of regular day-to-day needs, fees, clothing, rashan and all needs. [which is obviously very wrong, fees I am giving through my pocket and from PF/earned leaves money].
b) At the time of marriage dowry had been taken [which was wrong, and just a simple marriage was done]
c) At the time of Birth of both kids, she (wife) was thrown to her parents house for birth and nursing expenditure, and that after birth of the sons, choochak (dowry) was asked. [which is wrong, and 1st kid got birth in a nursing home near my parents house and 2nd was in a nursing home near my company provided accomodation]
d) That I (husband) is giving all money to my 2 sisters, 1 brother, and previously to mother, who is no-more now. Their names are also being put in the court letter.
CASE: She has demanded regular money every month (60k) and that money from retirement should be given to her.
All this is happening NOW because I will be getting retirement money from my company in Dec.
But, I want to maintain the family, want to live with wife and kids.
Apart from this, below are some conditions of my family:
1) Because of all money being spend in useless things, I have not even maintained a car, or not even taken a house.
2) She is living in the apartment provided by company, still she many times closes the house and i have to sleep in office, park, etc.
3) We both are in same house, but she has not made me feel that she has filed a case, and now a days college fees of elder son (20 years old MBA final year) has to be given so she is giving food to me and talking properly, and asks me to give fees (1.70L).
4) She forces me now and then that take a house for living, and tells me to dont worry about daily living after retirement, as our elder son will be doing job.
5) I strongly doubt on the above point, as she has full control of both the kids, and both sons argue with me many a time regarding money etc. So if i take a home from retirement money, they will live in it and throw me out of the house.
My Questions in this case:
1) Confused about the regular money every month demanded, should be given?
2) Confused about the purchase of house, should be good for me in future?
3) What all can i do to protect me and save myself and keep this family maintained in future.
Please give direction to defend my case. And is there any Senior Citizen ship priority will be given to me as i am and will be attaining 60 years of age.
Two cases are filed, 1 in Patialla house and 1 in local court.
Thanks in advance. Regards, MG.
