Matrimonial discord

1. Try more to maintain status quo on matrimony if that is also what you want otherwise Court is there to part parties. 

2. Agree to take separate residence (which she insists too and not tried by you) and see if her behavior changes for the better of parties relationship r/w minors welfare. 

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Hello Tajobsindia,

           thanks for your suggestion. May be I will move to a separate residence but don't you think forcing husband this way to leave his parental home and the kind of activities she has been pursuing for such along time amount to mental cruelty to me?

What if I create provisions for separate kitchen so that she can do her stuff all her own?

She is not talking to you for the last one year, not talking with your parents for the last 4 years, not taking care of the son, then what is she doing?  How is she spending her time?  First, as suggested, take a separate home for you,your wife and son, near about your  parents' house.  If she is not a working woman, insist her to get some job so that she can spend the day time in the society.  Next, if she accepts to take up a job, engage a full time maid to do domestic chores and do not insist that the wife has to do outside job as well as domestic chores.  Share the rented house charges half-half.  I can understand your problem and I have sympathy.  But at the same time I point out that when wife is asked to leave her parents and stay with the husband and his parents, we do not see any illogic and accept it as custom.  If wife asks the husband that just leave your parents as I have left, we see the unreasonableness in such a demand.  Any how, without going into such ideological issues, to protect your family life, I suggested you above methods.  If you insist of going to court, o.k. you can file the divorce case on the ground of mental cruelty and the result of the case totally depends that how you bring your evidence to the satisfaction of the court.

Thanks for your suggestions Adv. Chandrasekhar.  She spends most of the time with her parents. I believe her mother takes care of everything there. When here, she does domestic chores for herself and child only, completely ignoring  me and my parents. Recently we went to marriage counselor and she agreed to bring normalcy back in our married life if she can do her domestic chores independently (not in joint family format with my parents). She again went to her parental home for couple of weeks now. When she comes back, I am going to provide her with provisions as agreed upon. 

I do not have any willingness to go legal. But if this provision does not work, I will for sure.

why you have taken your wife for marriage conusellor you have not mentioned 

because the daily chores which she is doing does not need any conunsellor to solve the problem it is you slowly change her behaviour and bring normalcy 

what disturbances have occured between you both should first resolve the issue as you said you stay with your parents so here may be she is not comfortable with your parents so do not force for some time to pressure her to do all things which spoil your relation 

in my view taking separate residence and leaving your parents at this age will give her more chance to behave like this 

alright if you and your parents also want the same then plan a residence near your parents house and see for normalcy in your wife behaviour