Arun Kumar Sir is right….
Such a wife should not be given a single penny unless the court orders…..Remember one thing…Never give permanent alimony to your so called WIFE. Ask her to fight till she gets white hair and take what court orders on each month from court it-self and spend the remaining life with your parents (That’s what she wanted actually)..
It has become a trend now that wifes are “KHATI HUSBAND KA HEY OR GATI PARENTS KA HEY”…Sorry if this offends to any one but this is brutal truth. Every wife in general tries to ..
1) Show too much love from the first day of engagement with husband such that she is the only one who would care for him whole life and till many lifes to come.
2) They they try to separate him from his family.
3) Try to control the finances under the incluence of her parents.
If can’t succeed in some time (that depend on the patience she is having and varies largly), they go back to Parents but his Father (doesn’t matter how well settled) wants her daughter to get maintenance from husband and …take money..so first files false cases…and then ask for money (with Gun on his own daughter so that no one can retaliate directly on him)
1) To settle the cases and take the wife back
2) Or to divorce
Otherwise they threaten that the Husband would have to live alone for eternity and our daughter would enjoy his money.
To teach lesson to such people.
1) Tell them that you are neither going to take her back not going to divorce her till the cases gets withdrawn with paying any money.
2) Tell them that you would get into live-in relation ship with out giving divorce to your daughter and would fight this cases till they ends.
3) Tell them that even if you would succed in convicting me in 498a then I would accept the jail, by the time I would spend all my money on my family/live-in partner and you won’t then be able to get monthly maintenance which the court might have ordered.
DO THIS AND STAND ON THIS FOR AT LEAST 6 MONTHS – 8 MONTHS AND SEE THE DIFFERENCE. THEY THEMSELVES WOULD COME TO YOUR FEET TO SETTLE WITHOUT MUCH DEMAND.
But the problem with us (Husbands) is we think that having s*x is our daily necessity once starts earning and get married and we can’t live without it and hence try to settle the matter at any cost (either to bring her back or to remarry)….AND FATHER IN LAW (BEING A MAN) KNOWS THIS.
My FIL was demanding 10 Lacs for compromise and re-union four months back (cases filed before six months) and now has come to 2.5 lacs. I am well in talking terms with my wife as the doors of negotiation should not be closed….but let them know that you are willing to take her back but on your terms (if they like).
Meanwhile there are many private female services available….and If you are so Sex freak then spend your money on different female partners rather then giving 16 lacs to a women who never cared for you and lived just 1.5 months with you.