Which one is better for wife seeking for seperation

1. Hon'ble SC has said in catena of Judgments that marriage expenses cannot be returned back. So there your second question is thus legally answered.

2. If you have made up mind on MCD then involve a neutral person to make reason with your husband / his side and with reasonable one time alimony (keep it reasonable) both of you can proceed on MCD route. It is safe and just minimum 6 months time based. This way your main theme of this thread post is socially answered for all parties to go back justified.

3. If husband is interested in plain vanilla MCD (without reasonable one time alimony) then he has to be reasonable enough after hearing MCD thoughts to return honestly atleast your stridhan and get over with MC Divorce.

4. Separation is not a good choice.  The major difference between divorce and legal separation is that legal separation does not dissolve a marriage. Therefore, spouses who are only legally separated cannot remarry without getting a formal divorce. This has the potential benefit of making it fairly easy for the couple to reconcile and continue their life together as married spouses, if they desire, without having to go through the marriage process again. Reading your two threads till date we feel legal ‘separation’ may not be of benefit to you currently.
 
If para 2 and 3 are not possible with neutral persons reasoned talks showing husband clearly what the Law and years it brings to young couples life then you have no other option left with other than to make use of adversial Law of the land. That is what contemporary Indian marriages today are all about and once thru with it re-start your life be it so if it takes your next 4 - 6 years to restart and sometimes by just usage of the very first steps under adversial Law other party (either spouse) comes to mediation table so if that is what history is meant to be read as I don’t see it was a bad option one was left with but then use it with great caution as it is addictive in wrong hands just like dope J.

One can say reasonably that a 28 years old world traveled r/w well forum posting read in past several days can always now make a wise decision! 

while taking divorce..is it must to give alimony to wife??? just am curious if so how much can i expect from my husband, present am not working but i am hardly trying to join IT job immediately after returning to India which is ver much important for my growth, he earns 7000$ per month which is 3.5 lakhs per month ..Am 25 yrs old , ive got married wen am 23, ive seen enough coz of my disturbed marriage...his earnings are good, during marriage they demanded and took heavy dowry in form of cash from my parents and later my MIL told to every one that its love marriage no dowry , but they took dowry infront of mediators , elders...which bothers me is my dad borrowed some money and spent for wedding ,he has done that so his only daughter gona be happy..these fellows they took advantage of each step....they bluffed and got married..so just in case how much i can expect alimony ...

Based on commercial analysis, you can expect as below

1)Actual  dowry given by you less any asset with you or in your name purchased after marry. plus 

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2) Your reasonable monthly expenses including rental house / 0.01 (This would result in an asset that would fetch you 12% PA return)

If you are not bothered for point no-1, then treat is as an wrong investment in shares and consider only point no-2, he will be agree easily.

please answer me  clearly??? vishak                                                                                 

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Suppose you had given dowry worth Rs 10 lac and now you need Rs 15000/- per month for your reasonable life (Assuming your hi profile life style you will meet by your own job/earning) then your alimoney amount calculates as below:

1) Rs 10 lac dowry (Assuming you have no asset in your name purchased out of your hubby's salary after marry)

2) plus Rs 15000 / .01 = Rs 15 Lac

Total Rs 25 Lac. That is as per market prevalent as minimum and reasonable.Rest  depends upon negotiations.

Then return to ur parents point no-1 & keep with you point no 2 in mutual funds fetching 12-15% annual returns and live your tensefree life.

when husband is getting 40 lakhs per anum and for me 15 lakhs is the life time alimony ???? right ??he didnt purchase anything on his name first of all. he never purchased anything on my name...after divorce only he will purchase on his name .....ok leave it am not much bothered about alimony...my question is .....if any one goes for MCD .....is alimony must??? he should give alimony to his wife???? Now i am in US, i  am facing bad situation... he is pressurizing me to give divorce...but i said i will give it in India..because here i cant fight alone..what should i do now ?? whether to take money from parents n book ticket n come to india or just face thing or to give divorce in US

...my question is .....if any one goes for MCD .....is alimony must??? he should give alimony to his wife????

Practically Alimony is given in lieu of 498A & DV cases, if no 498A is filed and only DV is filed for maintenance,then in case of MCD you will be paid monthly nominal sum as decided by court till u remarry.If 498A is filed by you he will be facing simaltaneously.