Fake gold for marriage. will it lead to any trouble later ?

I draw attention to author to another paralell thread where author is 180 degree opposite.

please see https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/How-to-save-my-parents-gold-gifted-to-my-wife--89572.asp#.U9ScQkBvdG0

How are you going to stop your relative from gifting gold to your daughter?

@ESIS  - 6th point very good! 

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6. After marriage of a girl the gotr, dharam, parivar all becomes different for her , she has to think for her family that is her husband, children and his parents. So, if you interfere in their life after marriage then surely you are going to ruin your own daughters life.

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In today's marriages daughters are not advised on this by parents but only opposite. 

Most of the parents say that we did this, that, etc for their only daughter and treat her like their property (like nobody did for their daughter at the old days)  -  'She doesnt have to adjust in their inlaws house, follow their customs, etc because it is not like old days.  Girls are independant, have more freedom, can come out of the inlaws house even for small fights, file divorce, file criminal cases etc etc. ' where the problem could have been solved if the girl's parents give little advice to their daughters instead of encouraging and taking care of her even after marriage which spoils her family life.

After hearing more and more stories/divorces nowadays, I thank god that  I am more fortunate to have a grandma, parents who DO NOT interfere in any of my family matters, give respect to my husband/inlaws (if you give respect, you get respect) and advice me correctly even if I complain (I dont much complain, but very rarely) that I have to adjust a little to have a healthy family life. 

I am lucky I am married for 11 yrs and have a healthy family with 2 kids  not because of me and my husband but the contribution is from my parent's family.  I had tough times but NEVER they encourage me to leave my husband and stay with them.  NEVER.  This is more important.

Parents please understand -  You could have given your daughter degrees, freedom,  good job, etc etc but most important thing is after marriage dont treat her like child and interfere in her family matters. If you had chosen a good boy (in most of arranged marriages you would have inquired about the boys family) then give them some time to adjust.   Do you interfere in her job?  Same way, she has to get adjusted and practice, so dont interfere.

So many could have changed now in India, more modern culture, westernized, etc but answer only this:

Are Boys tying the knot or Girl's tying the knot on boys neck during wedding?

Originally posted by : sister
	@ESIS  - 6th point very good!    ****************************************** 6. After marriage of a girl the gotr, dharam, parivar all becomes different for her , she has to think for her family that is her husband, children and his parents. So, if you interfere in their life after marriage then surely you are going to ruin your own daughters life. *****************************************   In today's marriages daughters are not advised on this by parents but only opposite.    Most of the parents say that we did this, that, etc for their only daughter and treat her like their property (like nobody did for their daughter at the old days)  -  'She doesnt have to adjust in their inlaws house, follow their customs, etc because it is not like old days.  Girls are independant, have more freedom, can come out of the inlaws house even for small fights, file divorce, file criminal cases etc etc. ' where the problem could have been solved if the girl's parents give little advice to their daughters instead of encouraging and taking care of her even after marriage which spoils her family life.   After hearing more and more stories/divorces nowadays, I thank god that  I am more fortunate to have a grandma, parents who DO NOT interfere in any of my family matters, give respect to my husband/inlaws (if you give respect, you get respect) and advice me correctly even if I complain (I dont much complain, but very rarely) that I have to adjust a little to have a healthy family life.    I am lucky I am married for 11 yrs and have a healthy family with 2 kids  not because of me and my husband but the contribution is from my parent's family.  I had tough times but NEVER they encourage me to leave my husband and stay with them.  NEVER.  This is more important.   Parents please understand -  You could have given your daughter degrees, freedom,  good job, etc etc but most important thing is after marriage dont treat her like child and interfere in her family matters. If you had chosen a good boy (in most of arranged marriages you would have inquired about the boys family) then give them some time to adjust.   Do you interfere in her job?  Same way, she has to get adjusted and practice, so dont interfere.   So many could have changed now in India, more modern culture, westernized, etc but answer only this:   Are Boys tying the knot or Girl's tying the knot on boys neck during wedding?

Is it related to the query

Mr. Sudhir Sir, if you see the quotes from this query,  I think it is related to query:

Author's quote -  Iam sure that once the jewelry reaches her husband's place in will be kept under the parents control, but I am equally worried that my future son-in-law might use it for a bank loan and the trouble will start. Will my dauhgter or I will face any legal issues if give my daughter fake gold jewelry ?



Mr. Taj's response  -  BTW, after 'giving' what does your son-in-law does with it shall not be under 'your control' as then it becomes his 'family matters' which includes taking guardianship of your daughter who then is his legally wedded wife.



Author's quote  -  but your ideology belongs 20 years and beyond. India, now is very westernized. A good example is the Bars and Cars. And you have no legal expertise to offer.



My daughter is not their property,  parents will not forget her after marriage. Her earnings may be less than her husband's but she is very valuable to us.



Mr. Sudhir's response  -  After marriage why/how her earning will be valuable to you.



Mr. ESIS response -  After marriage of a girl the gotr, dharam, parivar all becomes different for her , she has to think for her family that is her husband, children and his parents. So, if you interfere in their life after marriage then surely you are going to ruin your own daughters life.

and the above was my response.

To sum up the entire thread of this conversation would be - where @sister is perfectly correct............once the girl is married. the parents of the girl should stop meddling in the affairs of their son in law and their daughter. (their family) both the boy and girl are major enough to think about themselves, this type of meddling only leads to quarrels and fights between couples, where the girls parents act as catalysts and then try to hijack the situation by instigating their daughters to file case after case to satisfy their own ego.

there are plenty of examples which are present in the forum itself where parents and relatives of the girl poke their nose in every action of their daughters married house.