"Mens brain is large than women whereas brain cells in women are more than men".
When it is about the new relation by means of marriage, some misunderstandings and sort of rejectness by elders happens then it is the time to analyse self, going ahead on understanding the others, discussing with the partner about family, do's, don'ts and how. It is completely an art.
The places where you've pulled them are not holy places, where people go and say "oh god, forgive us" and comes out with a fresh heart. Complaints and notices are not thrivikram scriptts full of jokes to laugh loudly and remember a long, those are cases. No one here delivers judgement for one's case, but what happens is based on the posts the experts and experienced will share their knowledge and views.
Smitha, As per your posts - you were harrassed physically and mentally for dowry by your husb family and then for property on your name, also there is an attempt to murder in the early hours of morning(think about it how he struggled throughout the night without sleep not to kill you but finally decided to do it (just imagine), are you sure it wouldn't be repeated) and most important thing is it seems like there is no one to support you from your husb family side. In such case there is no meaning in saying "Iam not interested in dissolving the marriage" and finding solution "to get back husband".
When they've harrassed you as a citizen of india you've all the right to go and lodge a complaint. Before filing the complaints(as per your posts only) you are very clear that either continue or go for MCD and asking for onetime settlement and maintenance, but you/(or it would be the master brain befind you, definitely a male, probably your father) would've tried to know and clear about the consequences of going further with criminal cases and legal notices.
*Dissolving the marriage is not a big thing for you and no concerns on this, but now as these cases goes for years and this concerns you.
If your husband is not ready to take you back some day definitely he will file for divorce - this is the thing you want otherwise the other option he had is filling RCR(as per my knowledge this is the only other option he had) you even ready for this, you would've waited for some more time without filing complaints, as there is a chance that your husband would realise from the mistakes and take you back, if you are lucky seperate from his siblings . But you've cameup with few more options and ultimatums which would hurt one's ego.There are many cases(like situations) where men took wife back in counselings and after that. But now the time is over, as you are trying to gain knowledge on how to get back husb, he may also trying to gain knowledge in reverse to the way you r tying(but here reverse way means not to reach you).
At parental home women would've born with golden spoons and dimond rings in the olden days, that's why great and grand great of the great grand fathers in our culture invented the word "Dowry" and included it in the tradition. Marriages broken because of real dowry concept are very less where as marriages broken because of egoistic feelings in the face of dowry are very huge numbered. Though poor, men enjoy life better before marriage even than after marrying a woman who comes with a baggage of metals, bundles of paper, and mental torture as a package.
"Mens brain is large than women whereas brain cells in women are more than men", Initially it follows a master brain of a man and then starts thinking self and wants what it lost.
