somebody in these forums said that
throw away your anger, fear, revenge and greed...and i am trying to do that. below answer to Heera is actually answers for me to questions which i should also ask myself.
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Oh my God Heera. I am compelled to reply to you. sorry for my english.
First of all, thanks for the perspective which you have tried to project. this is what i wanted from members ( novice, student,elders or expert, whoever maybe).
You sound just like my wife. I do not know if you are man or a woman.
In my post i have written that she knew my responsibilities and thats what i have discussed with her in length before marrying. now if she was not able to access the kind of responsibility which she may have to bear with me, probably that's her fault( when before marriage i have provided her a platform, now dont tell me that i can lie here...i wont gain anything). So when a person is having a responsibility, he has to divide his time for people look at him.
Why i said u sound like my wife, because u r a hypocrite. you say u understand my responsiblity and then you give a solution to not go for marriage. In which books its written that a responsible man who is runing his family after years of hardship cannot marry. Yes he has to assure that he marries a woman who understand it and thats what i explained her. Many girls said no to me and i said know to them because either they didnt wanted to take up what i was bearing alone or i thought they will not be able to take up what i was bearing. with my wife, before marriage, she did all to help my mother and sis and bro...and accepted me because she thinks a man who takes care of her family irrespective of him being burdened is a good man.
She married me because i am a good man. now she is yelling at me saying why i am a good man only to a particular set of people.
So you sound like a hypocrite, who says s/he understand, but do not have any perspective.
And i Say you do not understand the meaning of a dutiful son and why dutiful because his parents gave him this life. In my opinion duty is not attached to emotions of love or affection, Duty is attached to commitment to give back what was given to you, Duty is attached to the feeling of responsibility of doing it when u know u can do it. Duty is attached to ability of exercise your powers to help the powerless when u know that will help them...obviously power within your capacity.
So do not give me a suggestion about grow-up and attachment to my siblings. my mind is very crystal clear.
So here also i will say u r a hypocrite who says you agree with me on my financial liability but give me a solution to disassociate with that.
The list of expectation which you have listed here which i am expecting from her...is a sheer exaggeration of my expectation which i have not written anywhere. I don't think its write to portray my expectation without understand it.
That's why i say u sound like my wife...a hypocrite by heart...who is passionate about showing sympathy but is not compassionate enough to understand whats being written
there are experts who have gone many times against a married man here, but they have good reasons and suggestions which they tried to ask the men to follow first.
What i see in you is a kid!!!
now you will ask him why i want to divorce...where my sense of duty and responsibility gone with my legally wedded wife...???will you ask that...i propose you to ask me that if you have that guestion
