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girish (selfemployed)     30 September 2013

Need to seperate from my wife

hi  to all here.

just need to say that i need urgent guidance for taking divorce from my wife. the details are as under:--

i married 5 months back to a girl who liked me  lot since last 5 yrs.she knew my family well since last 5 yrs. few days back she went to her parents house  and told me to talk to her brother in the midnight. her brother called me after few minutes and told me to meet him at my brothers residence (where i stay on rent basis) .i sensed something wrong but still didnt doubt my wife that time.next day  in the evening she came with her brother and his wife and we started conversation and sorted out her doubts peacefully.

suddenly, she started shouting at me  and telling her brother that i neat her few days back which was a total lie from her side.her brother too tried to stop her from behaving in that manner without any specific reason.

later she saw that her brother and his wife were supporting me only instead of her coz they realised that she was only at fault. so she called her dad and her sister  and her husband to come to my house. her sister came with her husband(whose mother is actually a prostitute) and statterd fighting and abusing me , and my family members without giving any resons. we tried our best to keep our cool but eventually i had to order them to get out of the house as they created noise pollution in our society for atleast 2 hrs.

then again i tried to convince my wife to keep calm and sort out things peacefully. even his brother and his wife along with my family members( who rarely visit my brothers flat)tried to pacify her but she just said she dont want to stay with me and wnet away with her brother.

then after few days my wifes  dad and brother .called up my family memebr and apologised for my wifes bad behaviour and wanted to meet us again. we agreed and meet them  yesterday evening.

this time, i was not able to reach on time due to heavy traffic but my family members me them. right at the entrance only  of my brothers hose where i stay, her same sister and her husband( his  mother  is a prostitute)  started pushing and abusing my family members and threatened them with police complains and dire consequences..

after huge showdown our whole society came to our rescue and supported us and told them to discuss things within our house. 

 later they all entered home with my family members and again started shouting at my brothers house. my wife told them that  she gave me money in the year 2007 and wanted her money back.

after some time i reached home and  came to know about the whole matter but  neither she nor any of her family members asked me about the money  that my wife told them that she gave me in the year 2007. when my sister and aunty enquired about the money given to me she said she dont have any proof while giving me money to me except few messages she got from my cell. i never took money from her she is  a liar, a big liar,   we talked and sorted out things i.e: my wife apologised to all my family members and told that she wants to stay with me. they told me to take a call  and i told them to give me few days time to think about  and will let the know my decision whether i want to continue with her or not.i was just not feeling well due to this huge stress of marriage on my head. 

i now dont trust her et all and just scared to live with her under the same roof fearing that she may lodge a false complaint against me and put me behind bars and spoil my life and career. i wan to divorce her due to her repeated mental torture

pls. advise me urgently as i have to reply  on asap.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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 7 Replies


(Guest)

Want to separate from wife?


1.  Pay her huge money, so that she gives you mutual consent divorce.  Apply divorce today under MCD 6 months later you are a free bird.

2.  If she does not want to give divorce, still you go ahead and file divorce based on mental cruelty.  Say in 6 years you will be a free man, but still you will have to pay her money even after divorce until she remarries !

3.  DO not have such money, do not have patience to go to court halls for next 6-7 years,. then become JORU ka GHULAAM, dance according to her tunes.  Dhating dhating dance, till the very last breath of your life.


(Guest)

In short..


Either adjust according to how she is.

Or

Be prepared to go to court, land up in jail etc etc.


Sorry that you were born and Indian male.

girish (selfemployed)     01 October 2013

thanks for ur feedback. yes i am from a poor family and cant afford to give my wife  any money so 4get big money and u being here to halp men commuinty ur instead scaring all men? dont advise bad to men in stress rather dont comment et all coz its only the men whos going thru the turmoils in his maaried life feels the pain and sorrow s within himeslf. so give a genuine advise and help other men rather then frightening and scaring them with ur comments.


(Guest)
Originally posted by : girish

thanks for ur feedback. yes i am from a poor family and cant afford to give my wife  any money so 4get big money and u being here to halp men commuinty ur instead scaring all men? dont advise bad to men in stress rather dont comment et all coz its only the men whos going thru the turmoils in his maaried life feels the pain and sorrow s within himeslf. so give a genuine advise and help other men rather then frightening and scaring them with ur comments.


"Puksatte maal laude ke baal" goes the saying. Which means that free advice is worthless. This was perhaps the most genuine answer/advice you would ever get.


Do some rounds here in the forum.


Meet a couple of lawyers [senior] and explain this issue to them.  Am sure if you have approached a genuine lawyer then the answer what you will get will be the same as what I have told here.

Saurabh..V (Law Consultant)     01 October 2013

@Author

 

I'm unable to understand the reasons behind your wife running away from her matrimonial home i.e. your rented house. Although you have given so much lengthy explanation but it seems it was all written only in anger/anguish/emotions. You have failed to provide the 'real' substance for your case. It seems that you married a wrong person and you couldn't understand her reality even in 5yrs. Now that you have realized the truth, you are now under pressure.

 

Anyways! I think you have to find credible evidence based on which you can file for divorce. But be informed that as soon as you file for Divorce, your wife would file criminal cases against you immediately. Maybe she would not file such cases by herself but to thwart your bid to get rid of her, she would be advised so, by her lawyers or by police.

 

In India it is very easy for a wife to get divorce, protection, money, alimony, maintenance, right of residence but situation for a husband is just opposite. I think you should consult a good divorce lawyer. Collect evidences like her voice recording or if possible, collect some video recordings which shows that she is at mistake and she is responsible for havoc in your life. Even then it may take 4yr - 5yr for a simple divorce.

 

All the best!

 

//peace

/Saurabh..V

girish (selfemployed)     01 October 2013

thank u very much for ur timely advise. i will act as per ur advise on asap. god bless u sir.

NRI Legal Consulting (Consultant)     01 October 2013

Dear Sir,

 for mutual Divorce at least one year should be passed. For more query contact us query@nrilegalconsulting.com


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