I married in March 2015. She is a distant relative of my distant relative. Unfortunately, I misread her. She belongs to a feminist family which is dominated by her mother.
I live in a different city from my parents. From day 1 her mother has been interfering too much; asking about everything over the phone. Add to it that the mother daughter both are sympathy seeking, narcissistic persons. My wife is totally opposite of me. We have absolutely nothing in common. She is a spoiled child whereas I have been a very decent person all through my life. She has lied to me most of the times. I have tried my best in improving her lovingly but to no use. I did everything to make her happy but she is an expert in finding shortcomings. She has several times threatened me of moving out of this marriage in the six months we have spent together. By the end of six months, she and her family has maligned me by saying there's no physical relationship whatsoever between us and the boy is physically unfit. They have malinged my parents too that they have mentally tortured her for whatever short amount of time she has spent with them. Her parents came to our home, brought panchayat and did their best to insult all of us. They took their daughter with them forcibly expecting me to come next week to take her back. That was the day when I gave up on my marriage. I didn't go to bring her back.
Since last four months we are not together. They have spread all sorts of rumours about me and my mother in the whole community. One and a half month after her parents took her forcibly, she came to a nearby city, found a job and started working. I came to know this a month later. When I confronted her (over phone), she left the job silently but never confessed.
I want to get rid of my wife and we are scheduling a meeting with the girl's family. However, they are greedy people having no morals. Now they all are saying that she wants to stay with me. Her parents have also taken U-turn and are saying that they want this marriage to continue. Probably they want me to say No. Right now her parents and relatives want me to bring her back once. However, I can't trust her anymore. I fear that she can put even more serious allegations on us in near future.
- What options I do have legally?
- What should I say or not say, when we are meeting, so that things can't be used against me?
- What should I say when people from her side shall be trying to convince me to take her with me?
Fed up from her attitude, I switched on call recording after 2 months of our marriage. However, I sometimes used to disable it inbetween. I took snapshots on my mobile of her differnt hostile whatsapp status between 4 months of our separation.
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