Religious customs denied

Marriage Customs --- Baby Customs(Naming Ceremony,Tonsure...)

Boys Side : Parents took all the expenses of marriage around 15Lakhs without taking single penny of dowry from girls side..Whatever religious customs incurring in the marriage done by boys side without pressure generously.

Girls Side : Parents denying most of the religious customs stating that it is not our customs..They saying after all they enjoyed all customs from boys side..When their turn comes , they deny them...They say we are demanding more...

Actually boys side spend way too far than girls side...They like them to do Customs though not insisting on money value,they feel its their pride in the society... Now the boys side like to do atleast in their cost because he is the only son in his family along with two daughters already married with kids.that also they denying that.

It is frustrating...It just gives the boys side some satisfaction... They want to involve in their grandchild customs..... But girls side keep their grand child....

We asked by phone/msg plenty of times.. But no use.. Now would like to take police help...It is not to harm them.. but to get the child ....

how to deal with this please... I want to make a complaint against them...If they adament.