Filing a case on wife and her family for mentally torturing

Its better youfile divorce casevif you dont feel to continue this relation immeditely before she file 498a

Thanks "Brother" for the quick response for my query.

here im lil bit worried that, if i go filing the case before she, on what grounds can i stand strong based on my story to get divorce.

Dont be upset over the routine tussles and be misguided to take hasty decision.  if she is not returning to your house, do not make any attempt to call her back this time.  Allow her to remain there in her house itself and sever all connections with her, do not attend her phone calls and do not even bother about her very existence.  Ignore her totally, allow this separation to go on for a while, if she realises and returns to your house, take her back or wait for the time to pass, the time will have an answer for all your problems then.

Hi Kalaiselvan garu,

i did the same that i didn't called her up till now from the issue has been raised. but attended twice to her phone calls. that to she said she is not well, to say this she called up, but not listened to me what i was to say. sure will be calm and do not tries to call/sms/mail her. here the main problem is with my wife and MIL, what ever she is saying FIL is acting according. they are dragging me and my family into sh*t, putting lots of pressure on us. and now they might ask me and my family for another sitting for panchayt, but, with my office works im not in a position to attend because of already in office i received more than twice warning from the HOD. now its time for me that a project meetings and submissions were to be attended this full week. please could you advice on this. really heartbreaking situation. 

gone through the forum, many of man/men suffering with the same issue. unbelievable! no laws were to support the suffering husbands. i think itz because of these Indian laws, female (wife of a husband) without thinking about their future doing all this to men.

I am trying to put RCR sending it to my wife. is it correct thing what i thought? on sunday they might call for panchayt. please suggest.

Balaji,

as advised earlier, do not submit to the sentimental pressure tactics adopted by her or her parents, be firm and calm, do not attend her calls, try not to venture into sms, fb, twitter, legal notice or RCR etc, this will provoke and the problems will aggravate and tend to rope in new and more vigorous problems leading to ugly exchange of spats and prolonging legal issues. Keep calm for the present, allow her to become tired of you due to your dead silence, teach her lessons over her mistakes and see if the passage of time will resolve all the issues between you both or it needs to tame the issues, therefore issuing legal notice and RCR case against her will be like inviting troubles for you especially at this very early stage of marriage.

annai nuvvu raasindi okka mukka kooda ardamkaaledu...kudirithe telugulo cheppu...

neway

what I suggest is try sending a registered letter with ack due receipt asking her to come back and then if she comes back then fine, if she doesn't come back then sever all the communication with her and move on for some time till she realizes her mistake.

if you bend for unreasonable and irrational demands then god can only save you. So be strong and don't get afraid of fake cases. If a case is registered, think that you got a license for divorce.

But a MAN should know what is an unreasonable and irrational demand. How to deal with such demands. Divorce is not a solution for all problems.

Hi All,

Thanks for your valuable suggestion. Im sorry, it took long time to revert.

After my posting, and all the discussions had with elders along with Girl's family, she came to me. Thought good, that, its all over. But, here comes the real problem for me again. She came to me because to get her revenge and to show me and my family BAD. In the month of January, she left me stating cannot live with me.

Her problem is that she wants me to be with her family and what ever they say i should listen to them and act accordingly. 

I am suffering a lot with her attitude and behavior towards me since the first night. Instead of Men saying/asking/torturing about s*x to women, she started asking me how do you knew all these things in s*x. Not even once, she asked me that nearly about 20 times before the time of first panchayat. 

After the panchayat she said that she will not do such things and will behave good. But as I said in the starting sentences, she came to me take revenge. After Panchayat, when she came and we lived together not even for 45 days, in those days, she started kicking at me at my (P...S) while we are at sleep. When I asked her she said sorry sorry at sleep i not understood. she did it for more than four times. It is really painful area for me to tackle her. I thought she will realize and understands what she is doing. But, she never. Also, every time she blames me that you are not capable to live or to buy luxury life like others. As she is working, wants to give money to her parents. without informing or discussing with me, she sent her family money. that i found in her bag.

If I say her that how to live life or what expenses u had blah blah as a husband, everything she is saying to her family, like I am treating her like a slave. Her family, not only her parents, relatives too questioning me how will u ask her or say so. If she says something when we discuss regardless of anything, that she is showing no i didn't spoke like that, u r creating my (gal) character bad in front of others and my family.

Its been one month she left me. Two days back I thought to shift (as i am living in rented house far from my native) the household items, they got that information and came to me and attacked. Girl's father used unparliamentary language against my Mother.

Please suggest, as I don't want to be in mental tensions with that girl.

Hi All,

Its been 6 months that she left me and she only wants me at panchayat for blaming me and my family. My wife at the time of panchayat, she threatened of suicide in front of more than 100 people. this incident made me think of all the bad she did to me as she not listening to me, threatening of suicide without any big issues, giving false statements on which ever i asks, unethical money transactions between she and her parents, etc.. made me mentally torture. With all these i felt mentally disappointed and not even able to work at office, no sleep. Finally i applied for divorce.

My questions here are:

1. They didn't accepted the summons, which the court sent to them. is there any time period for summons to accept?

2. On knowing that i filed DV, without accepting the court summons, after 4 days she came to my native and played a drama. But, my parents without doing anything harm or wrong at that time, they went to police station and lodged a complaint against her as she not accepted the summons and now she came on to house threatening us with her suicidal drama. Police took away her and sent back to her parents. will she file any case on me? if so what and how should I proceed?

3. along with my wife, there were few know people from our end at the police station. There she created a story against my mother stating. Me and my wife after marriage we lived alone (me and my wife) as I work in a corporate company 200km away from my parental house. there is nothing relates wrong with my mother to my wife. even though she is creating false or showing my mother as negative. What to do?

Please advice on this and how to proceed further.

Chaitanya.

can you be more precise on 2) and 3)