sameer 20 December 2024

Physical abuse by wife

Hi,

Im 43 Male, married for 13 yrs , wife is 41, one daughter 5 yrs old. Wife is arrogant, and during argument gets violent. After verbal abuse to me and my mother(staying with us), she starts hitting herself , then to me . If I try to stop her , she has tried 2-3 times to physically intimidate my 72 yrs old mother as well(came close to her and holded her hand & face).

I do not have any video recording of this. I;m thinking of calling police next time. I fear she may play the victim card(all the laws in wife's favour), and I may be subjected to further abuse by police(despite being the victim).

Her family knows this, but refuse to intervene as they want my daughter & wife to stay with them as wife's brother and elder sister are unmarried.(both 40+).

How to safeguard myself, and my mother in such situation and otherwise- legally, as do not want to file divorce, for child's future stake.

Note : Wife is earning equally as mine.

Regards,

Sameer

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S. Gupta (Legal Scholar) 20 December 2024

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. It's important to prioritize the safety of yourself and your mother. Here are some steps you might consider:

1. **Document Everything**: Keep a detailed record of incidents, including dates, times, and descripttions. This can be useful if you need to provide evidence later.

2. **Seek Legal Advice**: Consult with a family lawyer who can provide guidance specific to your situation. They can help you understand your rights and options.

3. **Involve Authorities**: If you feel threatened or if violence occurs, don't hesitate to call the police. They can intervene and provide immediate protection.

4. **Support Networks**: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who can offer emotional support and advice.

5. **Counseling**: Consider seeking counseling for yourself and your wife. Sometimes, professional help can address underlying issues and improve the situation.

6. **Safety Plan**: Develop a safety plan for you and your mother. This might include having a safe place to go in case of an emergency.

Remember, your safety and well-being are paramount. If you ever feel in immediate danger, call the police right away.

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T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate (Advocate) 20 December 2024

If you don't want to file divorce case and don't want to get legally separated from her then you may have to continue to suffer the physical and mental tortures.

If the situation is intolerable you can plan to file at least a petition for judicial separation.