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Dessertion by husband

my sister got married 19 years ago. After 7 years of marriage my brother in law quite his job and its a downhill story since then. he sold family house, my sisters jewelry all other assets they had in this duration. Almost every six months he harasses my sister to get some money from my parents or us siblings, initially he use to ask for big amount of lakhs .. now he demands 50K -20K and harassment does not stop till he gets money. He takes money in name of starting a new business, we do not know what he does with this money as he never contributes to any of house hold expenses.

From last five years my sister is working and trying to meet ends. where ever they go he take debt from people in that locality and  then force the family to flee and settle in new place. recently he tried pulling same stunt again and when my sister refused to give in he left the house saying he does not want to keep any relation with her. he left behind his ailing parent with my sister to take care of them. we also suspect he has some extra marital affair but have no proof of it. My sisters In laws have a daughter who lives in maharastra (can be forced to take care of her parents?). 

My sister has a son who is in first year of college and is very disturbed with all this situation. For sake of her son she tried putting up a brave front till now. Now that it has all come in open. My sister wants to get out of this marriage but has very limited resources. Please advise how she should proceed in this matter. Thank you for your help.



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adv.bharat @ PUNE (Lawyer)     24 October 2016

Get divorce on ground of crulety.

Or u can get maintenance till case is pending in court.

A walk alone (-)     24 October 2016

It's too late for divorce. Better as she is working ask her to live with her inlaws and continue her job. Divorce will only give bad effect in her son's life in future. If she wants to remarry then only she can think about divorce .It's very easy hire lawyer he will draft you file divorce . But ask her before filing think about his son's future.

(Guest)
Wrong advises by walk alone and adv Bharat. Marriage calls for decorum from both parties. Firstly you are outsider. You should not meddle with your sisters fly. Are u not married or don't have any work? Ur sister n bil have lived long enough together to sort out their problems. You should help them emotionally and if your purse permits financially too. OK na.. Divorce is not recommended nor running away from.married life. Ask ur sister to Stay put. Getting divorce is impossible as is getting maintenance. Even I'm.lawyer but I won't suggest u to go to court.

(Guest)
Wrong advises by walk alone and adv Bharat. Marriage calls for decorum from both parties. Firstly you are outsider. You should not meddle with your sisters fly. Are u not married or don't have any work? Ur sister n bil have lived long enough together to sort out their problems. You should help them emotionally and if your purse permits financially too. OK na.. Divorce is not recommended nor running away from.married life. Ask ur sister to Stay put. Getting divorce is impossible as is getting maintenance. Even I'm.lawyer but I won't suggest u to go to court.

(Guest)
Wrong advises by walk alone and adv Bharat. Marriage calls for decorum from both parties. Firstly you are outsider. You should not meddle with your sisters fly. Are u not married or don't have any work? Ur sister n bil have lived long enough together to sort out their problems. You should help them emotionally and if your purse permits financially too. OK na.. Divorce is not recommended nor running away from.married life. Ask ur sister to Stay put. Getting divorce is impossible as is getting maintenance. Even I'm.lawyer but I won't suggest u to go to court.

(Guest)
Wrong advises by walk alone and adv Bharat. Marriage calls for decorum from both parties. Firstly you are outsider. You should not meddle with your sisters fly. Are u not married or don't have any work? Ur sister n bil have lived long enough together to sort out their problems. You should help them emotionally and if your purse permits financially too. OK na.. Divorce is not recommended nor running away from.married life. Ask ur sister to Stay put. Getting divorce is impossible as is getting maintenance. Even I'm.lawyer but I won't suggest u to go to court.

(Guest)
Wrong advises by walk alone and adv Bharat. Marriage calls for decorum from both parties. Firstly you are outsider. You should not meddle with your sisters fly. Are u not married or don't have any work? Ur sister n bil have lived long enough together to sort out their problems. You should help them emotionally and if your purse permits financially too. OK na.. Divorce is not recommended nor running away from.married life. Ask ur sister to Stay put. Getting divorce is impossible as is getting maintenance. Even I'm.lawyer but I won't suggest u to go to court.

(Guest)

Thank you for your response. We are not looking for maintenance only mental peace. my sisters father-in-law gets good pension which can take care of their medical bills and sustenance. it’s only a question because at this age they need someone to take care of them and clearly his son is not capable of it.

about my sister, I agree she will not gain anything from this divorce she has already lost golden years of her life getting traumatized. we are a very conservative family so Divorce is a big no otherwise she should have taken it within first year of her marriage. she is teaches in a private school and takes home tuitions to support the family. so its not a question of money. money is simply not there.

the only concern here is we do not want to see her end up in jail because of my brother-in-laws ways. Is their a legal way to protect my sister from this persons legal/fiancial/illegal acts? Thank you.


(Guest)
Once u approach court, relationship is gone for a toss. How ever, relief sought will be gained in form of mirage. The so called great women helping laws seldom help women, but lawyers. So in this particular case it's best to adopt hide n seek policy rather than roam courts/end of relationship/incur expenses wrt fees to adv for remainder of life. Agreed peace, but at whose cost? That one has to think. Jumping from oven to fire? That's not called peace seeking/peaceful life. Think about it ask ur sister to take my number and ring me for further issues.

(Guest)

Thank you for your time and valuable inputs.


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