@ Aishwarya
I am adding on to your personal comment to me that I m having 'double face" and referring to your Please Advice thread :-)
In thread - https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Re-Pls-advice-21099.asp
Read Your post of 05 July 2010, 23:26 there
My reply of 06 July 2010, 15:17 is correct by commenting to both of you (Mohit) as "unfortunate incidence" and further gave guidence to both of you generically saying which ibid as" You can always revert back under "change of circusmstances clause" give or take after few years till then study the very Law which didnot give you desired trust in the institution"
BTW what you were expecting me to write neutrally to two same theme posts as above in Please Advise thread post subject with two families having similar situation other than above quote ! OR were you expecting me to say that both familes husband are crooks and use choiciesed language ina civilised open internet forum to make you happy, excuse me u made a wrong remark to a gender neutral person here who wanted to help but his abv. reply is taken as something alien !
and how abv. reply is double faced here to this title post you justify yourself :-)))))
You should have then thanked me in Please advise thread and further asked me how to claim under changed circumstances from your ex Husband who is now in overseas leaving you dry here in India ! I would have gladly gave my point of view but you missed that there and bring your personal fears and frustrations into this thread with tile post already hinted there and I knew then that one day you will create this thread.
Now enjoy a train missed is personal comment from me to you and see what difference legal logic plays in self generated threads in open WWW which is the mute point as an illustration trying to make you understand why this thread is too good but ending up like a personal gender score with no logical end.
If you still want my neutral help under "change circumstances" seek it I will openly give you very detailed help here in sperate thread for your own help which could be peer reviewed here openly with further educative replies by other Ld. members is what my purpose here is all about and which you interpret as lengthy preachings and mix my bedroom with your thread which is not required in a open self created thread.
Now here is an ode to all women and to all men including me; to make this thread lighter onto why a wife and husband are from Venus and Mars respectively :-)))))
Illustration:
Applicant: How is the food today?
Respondent : Good. Thanks.
Applicant: (after tasting the food) but there is no salt! Perhaps I forgot. Why didn't you point it out?
Respondent: If I point out such things it may be considered as "humiliation" under DV Act Section 5 (Chapter 5) sub clause 3(a).
Applicant: Why are you talking like that! I'm your wife! Don't you love me? And stop telling me about your funny Sections and Act ... I don't know nothing about it.
Respondent: Yes, I do love you.
Applicant: I love you too. Now tell me how much do you love me?
Respondent: Well, I wish I had an answer but I could not find the quality & quantity of love in DV Act that is required to be given by husband to his wife.
Applicant: I don't know what are you talking about!! Anyway, look outside, it's raining... let's get romantic and make love!
Respondent: I would love to make love but nothing in DV Act defines the strategies, do's & don'ts of making love, including the ones required to be complied with pre, during and post lovemaking. If I attempt to even show my affection towards you it might be misconstrued as "s*xual" and "physical abuse".
Applicant: Darling !!! Don't be such a bore... and I haven't heard you calling me "honey" from long !?
Respondnet: I'm not a bore and you know that. However, being a true Indian it's my duty to abide by the laws meant to protect women. I cannot call you "honey" coz it might come under "name calling" of DV Act. You might accuse me claiming that by calling "honey" I meant that you were the home of poisonous "honey" bees!
Applicant: Was it a joke?
Respondnet: No no, it was not a joke. DV Act doesn't allow me to joke with you as joking might be taken as "ridicule".
Applicant: I think you have gone mad !! Anyway, I know how to get you back on track. You know I got a call from my ex boy friend today when you were in office !!
Respondnet: Ok.
Applicant: Ok? What ok? You used to feel jealous to know about any male calling me! I love your possessiveness towards me!
Respondnet: I'm afraid but the DV Act doesn't allow me to stop you from talking to and/or meeting anybody you want to at any time... be it your ex boy friend or your new lover, be it at our home or outside. If I try to stop you it might be taken as "prohibition or restriction to continued access to resources or facilities which you are entitled to use or enjoy by virtue of "domestic relationship". I don't even have any rights to stop you from spending days & weeks with him, even if you plan that trip by selling all the items from our house and taking away my whole month's salary!
Applicant: This is going nowhere! I think you don't love me anymore !! I don't know what to do !! It's better if we don't talk at all for few days.
Respondnet: I do love you but the law has not provided me with relevant guidelines and suitable acts on the quality & quantity of love I am legally bound to give you. I don't mind keeping quiet as per your instructions but one of the judgements by Hon'ble Supreme Court says that "spouse's silence may amount to cruelty". I am helpless in the hands of law.
Applicant: To hell with your law !! For God's sake... can't you be your normal self with me !??
Respondnet: I am normal, but if I do not suppress my normalcy under the requirements of DV Act you might send me to jail !! I'm just trying to be a good citizen of India and serve you & the womankind. You can have me either as your normal husband or as a dog controlled by women biased laws. Tell me which one do you want?
Applicant: I want my original and normal husband.
Respondnet: Then wait till at least the DV Act and 498A are scrapped. Until then every happily married husband will abide by the requirements of DV Act to ensure they do not bypass the law; and every victimised husband will continue fighting against such gender biased, senseless and family-breaking laws.
Rgds.
P.S. This illustration is not my copyright and I apologise to that original Author to copy / paste his blog here without his permission, he may sue me if he so prefers.
