Hi everyone, I am looking for some thoughts and unbiased opinions on my situation.
Before marriage:
The girl's family wanted to see my salary slips before marriage. Do they have right to ask for it?
I did not mind showing them where I worked, and my IDs, but they were bent on salary slip, later on they said fine, we dont want to see,
Do you think they have legal right to see this before getting marriage fixed?
At marriage :
I got married just a month ago. The girl's family wanted to register our marriage, on the wedding day BEFORE ceremony- which I came to know only after we landed at the venue on our big day.Before the main ceremony began- we were told to sign papers, infront of few lawyers and witnesses who were invited by her parents, at the marriage hall.But since we were prepared for our marriage, that did not concern me that time.
Everyone was shocked / surprised because why before, normally it is after ceremony if I am correct?
My question is : Did her parents arrange this to avoid long queuing hassle of paper work? Or I could be naive and there could be other motives? Don't get me wrong, I am just looking for unbiased views, so please do not judge too quickly on this situation.
I am based in India, work in Bangalore, and no way settling abroad in just near future, so what was the whole point in this legal paper work? So why this rush ?
After marriage :
Now the girl's family have started talking very rudely with our family and do not take any interest in communication, my family calls them but they are not interested in being in touch with us much, after 'handling' their daughter to us.
We have recently, in just few days came to know they have no good relations even with each other. Now my family are closely bonded, we have very good family relations with everyone and have reputation in society etc. but they are just the opposite.
Am I anyway being trapped?
Many thanks for having patience to read all this,
Roshan