Hi. I got married in Feb 2012. We didn't take any dowry. My in laws told that they will give 200gms gold to my wife and register a property on her name. We gave 130 gms of gold to my wife. I work in bangalore and was planning to take my wife with me in a couple of months or moving back to hyderabad. I couldn't take her immediately as we had certain financial commitments like home loan and this was communicated to my wife and her parents.
Just before marriage my wife used to quarrel with me, disobey and disrespect me. This continues till date. I have a plan to go for higher studies and so i communicated to my wife, in-laws and relatives that i won't be going for a child till 2 years of my marriage. I never directly involved s*xually with my wife as she told me that if she gets pregnant and wants to remove her pregnancy will affect her health. So i was planning to consult a doctor or friends to know how to participate in safe s*x. Meanwhile my in laws told my wife that i could have a problem and that is reason for not participating in s*x. They gave me some time(1 week) where i tried to participate in s*x twice but failed. The reason is i was trying to prove my in laws wrong and the pressure to prove my case that i am not impotent resulted in the failure. As one knows that s*xual intercourse will succeed when both the individuals are in mood. My wife didn't cooperate with me and she too was trying to prove that i am impotent. We approached a doctor who gave us some counselling and told that there is no reason to worry. Still my in laws insisted we saw a specialist. The doctor asked to get some medical reports. Everything was normal. He gave me some pills on my in laws insistence, saying that these are are safe he asked me to participate in s*x. I and my wife went to Coorg for a short honey moon where we involved in s*x twice. Breaking of her hymen was also a proof that there was no problem.
We came back home and i left to Bangalore. Three weeks ago i moved back to hyderabad and brought my wife home. Since then the quarrels started again and she told me that she doesn't want to live with me anymore. Her parents have a strong influence in ruining our relationship that may take more time and space to explain.
Now they are trying to put a blame on me among our relatives saying that i am impotent. They are also putting a blame that i and my parents asked her to leave our house. I can prove from my wifes own words that i am not impotent. Also i can prove frome her words that she herself wanted to leave the house. My parents asked my in laws to come home with few of our relatives so that we can chat about our future. Till now they didn't turn up. I suspect that they want to keep the gold that our parents gave to my wife. I also suspect that they want a share in our property. I have never harassed her physically or mentally. Infact i have been the one undergoing continuous mental torture with her and her parents deeds. I want to live life peacefully. Can i get the gold from my in laws? Do i need to give any share in the property? Please help and guide me as to what action i should be taking.
