I agree with Mr. Mohit and Mr. Jayaswal.
The problem comes is due to what some friends call generation gap. We live in capitalist system and we want to keep the values of feudal system. The capitalist system is such ruthless system, the people live in this system cannot afford the human relations, which were prevailing in feudal system. Here money earning is a must for your survival. Money is the dominant force in your entire life and relations. In feudal system (I do not talk about means of production, the conflicts between the landlord and peasant class, but talk about social relations within the family) the joint family system prevailed and daughter-in-law (means of production) went from one family to other family, i.e., husband's family and treated that house her house and was doing domestic chores and giving birth and raising children and respecting the elders of that house. That is why, repeatedly we see the names of lord rama and lord krishna as our ideals on this web site, to whom we have to follow. Lord Rama belonged to feudal system and his values cannot be and shall not be applicalble in present era. What to talk about Lord Krishna, a polygamous, prevailing in half-slavery system. Now, we would see that in feudal system, you might have called a woman as sati, savitri, mata, devi, sita and what not and put her on high pedestal (where as she is a common human being like man) spelled out as godess but in fact she was exploited and full human right were not enjoyed by her (in such group our mothers, grand mothers and mother-in-law were there). Now means of production changed. Even then India as a whole is not going through the process of same economic stage. Certain parts of the country show capitalist system of economics and certain parts are showing feudal system. (In certain parts, especially in tribal areas, costal villages, note not costal towns, we see the half-slavery and half feudal system and full feudal system). some of our friends, differentiate them quite often as urban women and rural women, without touching the economic system prevailing in those areas. A woman in Delhi would not react in a same fashion like a woman from a rural village if any domestic violence is occured, dowry is demanded (dowry demand has got its origin in feudal system and is prevailing in present system) and, her fundamental rights are infringed. An urban father in law or mother in law cannot and shall not expect the same behaviour from a urban bahu, which would be provided from rural bahu. An urban woman, living in city, cannot accept fil's house as matrimonial home, whatever Supreme Court says or the prevailing law defines. She says her matrimonial home shall be different and distinct from in-law's house. One should not expect that she has to live feudal life style within the four walls of house and live a life style of capitalist system, soon as she puts her foot outside the threshold. But if the husband wants his wife to live in feudal life style, then there will be frictions. It is not the case with women only. There are several women, with Karva chouths and bhai dhuj cultures try to force their husbands to live in the feudal system, which would be next to impossible in 21st century. Then, again there will be conflicts. But most of the people, about 95% people, adjust of these things and live happily, if both of them convince each other they would like to live in the same system of Society, either it is feudal or capitalist. That is why, we see, in harmonious matrimonial partners, we observe common outlook towards the objects and ideas, whether they are retrogressive or progressive.
