san 16 April 2016
LegalFighter (test) 17 April 2016
My final point is, i not interested to give divorce, because he tourcher me and spoiled me and my baby's life and planning to do second marriage.
If he tortured you and spolied your life, why you want to be his wife? Why not divorce him and find a better partner for rest of your life? There is no point of staying married simply to be a thorn for him. Thorn will hurt you and your baby also. Either find a way to get back together as a family or get rid of the marriage and create a new life free from baggage.
You have right to get maintenance for your child. First send him a letter and ask him to pay for baby's needs. Tell him that he is required by law to pay.
If he ignores then talk to a lawyer and go to court for maintenance. Depending on various circumstances it can take 1 year or more to get maintenance order.
Going to court as first option will make him more adamant and then you will have to spend more energy, time and money to get the same maintenance.
Ravi (Consultant) 17 April 2016
You say you have no money and at the same time you say he demand Dowry. for sure you are saying that coz some how you want to get Maintenance from him filling false Dowry case.
You reported to Police also and they have not done anything means you are at fault and you were trying to mis use law
For sure this marriage will not work. you may be harassed him and his family now after Girl Child(thinking she will look after you when you are old) you want easy way out with money.
if you do not want husband, why you want his money. Give his Girl Child to him and move on without any money from him.
For sure you will not do that.
KS Johal 17 April 2016
A walk alone (-) 17 April 2016
san 18 April 2016
Hi tamilinian,
1. Yes, i'm educated, Completed MCA.
2. I having 3 years of work experience before marriage. After marriage and still now i having a 2.8 years of career gap having.
3. Yes, i having all evidence.
4. I having an angry on him, by he avoid me and my baby by hearing their parents words. But still i love him.
Thanks in advance.
Please help me to provide your suggestions.
san 18 April 2016
Hi Ravi,
Sorry, i cant able to give my baby at any time.
For her only i not interested to think about divorce and another marriage life.
I having fear, her dad itself not interest to take care. How other guy comes and take care of my child. My child should not hurt by any one. she wants to be happy. That only my needs.
But now at 1.5 years itself, my child, family members, all worrying by seeing of my trouble and worries. Really i dont know what to do. I plan to ask maintenance only to disturb him, by the way of , he need to think to take care of wife and child
san 18 April 2016
Hi,
Small imformation,
My husband not inform while he travel to Denmark for short term onsite. After return also he not make call. After 15 days of he return, i make call to him yesterday. He and his dad talking too much of bad words and they telling soon you will get divorce.
His dad telling that, i keeping a s*x with my dad and my brother kept my mom. Talking more rubish words.
Really i dont no, where it going to ends. In their family, nobody ready to think about my child future. Once my baby using mobile while playing, she send msg by pressing unmeaning message, For that my husband sending a message.. "Dont disturb me".. If i call, he not picking . for that also he sending a message "Dont disturb me again and again".
Whether there having any chance to change in counselling??
Or again he take we both and left in road, to fake court also ?? Because he did same in police station.(In station, he inform henceforth he take care me and baby, took to his parents house(Gobicheitpalyam). Keep one day, their parents fight too much. so left we both in road(Coimbatore) and went)
san 18 April 2016
Hi, I having one more main doubt. Whether there having any chance that to get my baby from me. Because, Myself happy by keeping that baby. Whether my husband try to get my baby? Whether there having any rights and law to give baby for him? Please let me know some details regarding this.
A walk alone (-) 18 April 2016
san 20 April 2016
Hi,
My husband is not in his native. He is in chennai at now, where he staying i dont know. their parents also taking very badly by comparing me with my father itself. I cant able to goto his house too at now. My husband send a message (If anybody come to my house i will beat in slipper) and his dad talk wrongly.
I consult with one lawyers and file a case to come and live with me. But i dont know, whether its work out in counselling or not. Moreover their parents also allow him or not, I doesnt know. Really i fully hurt more because of this issue. These situations spoiled my baby life also. Shall i know, how many counselling will give??
Did u have any idea, what are things may happen in and after counselling. Whether their any chance to rejoin or i need to change my mind?? He is very strong in to get divorce from me. Whether he having rights to get my baby? At any situation i cant able to give my baby at any time with anybody. I asking maintenance only to make him rejoin only by giving trouble financially. Not in money-mind. Without his money i take care of me and my baby this 1.6 years, still i can able to tacle. But he and his parents need to answer for my and baby life.
Please give me good suggestion.
Relationships are built by feelings of love and respect. Hoping that giving trouble by filing cases will build such feelings is utter stupidity. Nobody feels love for partner who creates troubles. Without reviving tender and softer feelings there is no chance of reunion. Don't live in illusions. By adding fuel to war it only becomes bigger, there is no end to the war and there is no winner.
san 25 April 2016
Then what is the use of maintaining a law for reunion and counselling? To reduce and forgive all mistakes and live together by forgetting all pains and sorrows only know.
All doing mistake, but accepting mistakes and reforming by thinking of kids life is not an illusion, i think so. If he not change, and his parents not accept his change means. Then Its GOD decision, If law not punish them means also, GOD will punish them definitely at one day.