Ajay Kumar (Sales Coordinator) 25 May 2013

Please give your valuable opinion.

Hi All, bahut sochne ke baad main apni pareshani post kar raha hoon. Ye soch kar ki shayad aap mein se kisi ke paas iska solution mil jaye.

Meri Shaadi 25th April'12 ko hui thi, jiske 15 din baad se hi mere ghar me ashaanti ka mahoul ban gaya. Iski wajah meri wife hai. Aaj meri shaadi ko 13 Months ho gaye hain par in 13 Months me, mushkil se meri wife 5 Months mere ghar rahi hai baaki woh zyadatar apne maaike me hi rahi.

Kai baar usne aur uske gharwalo ne mujhe apne gharwalo se alag karne k liye bhi majboor ki par jab main iss baat k liye nahi maana toh chhoti chhoti baat par ghar me ladai karne lagi.

Abhi woh pregnant hai, Aur pregnancy ke first day se hi woh apne ghar chali gayi thi. Still She is at her home. Routine checkup ke liye main usse hospital le jata hoon.

Meri mummy ne ab use bulane ke liye use call kiya toh woh kehti hai ki main abhi kaam nahi kar sakti isliye baad me aaungi toh mummy ne kaha ki jab tabiyat theek ho jaye bata dena, hum bula lenge, par 1 Hafte baad hi usne humare rishtedaaro ko phone karke kaha ki koi mujhe lene nahi aa raha aur mujhe yaha sharm aa rahi hai rehne me. Uski iss baat pe jab mummy ne use phone kiya toh ulta mummy ko hi blame laga diya ki "AAP TOH YAHI CHAHTI HO KI MAIN YAHI RAHU". Dono tarah se usne sabki nazron me apne aapko sahi saabit kar diya.

Ab uska kehna hai ki main agar waha aati hoon toh koi kaam nahi karungi. Meri mummy ne kaha ki apna khana toh le kar kha logi aur apne bartan toh saaf kar dogi toh kehti hai ki main koi kaam nahi karungi agar bulana hai toh bulao warna main yahi rahungi. Aur uske gharwale bhi uska iss baat me support kar rahe hain.

Ab woh dhamki deti hai ki meri saari shartein maan kar mujhe ghar bula lo warna main Police me complaint kar dungi. In sab baaton ki wajah se main apne office me concentrate nahi kar pa raha.

Please aap koi sahi salaah batayein.

Thanks and regards,

Reply Follow

17 Replies

(Guest)

Ab ball toh tumhare court mein hain, uski saari shartein maanlo, aur usko ghar vaapas leke aao.

Aur iss mein toh pyar bhi he. Pregnant jo hogayi tumhari wajah se, toh ab kya he, ki pyar toh dikhadi tumne aur usne shart rakhi, tumhari biwi tumhari biwi he, apni biwi ki shart maane mein koi burai nahi he.

Alag se ek ghar banao, mummy mummy kehna choro, ab khud tum puppa bangaye ho, abhi akal ka istemaal karo, biwi ko vaapas ghar mein leke aao, ulti khopdi case vase kardi toh puppa ko dekhne beta ya beti jail aana parega.

Ajay Kumar (Sales Coordinator) 25 May 2013

Sir,

Kis type ka case kar sakti hai woh?

(Guest)

Originally posted by : Ajay Kumar
	Sir, Kis type ka case kar sakti hai woh?

Maara peeta, jahar diya khaane me milaake, sir phod di, gaali deta he, dahej mangta he, joote se maarta he, bevda he, randi baaji karta he yeh sab case dalsakti he [498a, PWDVA]

Paisa toh mangegi court mein, agar nahi di toh tumko jail hosakti he [125crpc etc]

Ek kaam karo, khud hi poochlo usse ki konsi konsi case karna chahti he tumhare oopar?

Vaapas aakar yahan batadena aur case niptane ki tarkeeb hum tumko batadenge.

(Guest)

Dont leave your parents because you are scared of some false cases. Be a Man, have some conscience and take care of your wife's reasonable demands.

Never wag your tail for any unreasonable and unscrupulous demands. Jo hoga dekha jayega!! If you become an YESS man for everything that she demands then later you will be not in a position to handle your own family.

How to understand what is reasonable and what is unreasonable? - Go talk to some elders from both sides, let maturity prevail, give due importance to your wife, and then take a proper decision.

Shiv (Software Programmer) 25 May 2013

Jhuk ja biwi ke saamne bhai...ego mein tum dono ki barabar lagegi...wakilo ka kya hai case ke liye parivar tod dete hain...ab to baap bhi banane waala hai...mana le...chupchap reh le uske saath

Ajay Kumar (Sales Coordinator) 25 May 2013

Respected Sir,

Thanks for your good advice. Mere case mein situation thodi alag hai. Kai baar pehle bhi both side se elders ghar pe aa chuke hain par meri wife ke gharwale apni ladki ke favour me hi rehte hain chahe uski baatein aur sabko galat lagti hai. Uske parents kabhi uski galti nahi maante jabki jo log aate hain woh sab unko samjhate hain ki tumhari ladki ko samjho ye baat galat hai.

Shiv (Software Programmer) 25 May 2013

Aaajkal aisa hee hota hai...adjust hoja...meri bhi yahi kahani hai...main adjust karne ki koshish kar raha hoon...wakilo, courto, wakilo ke daftaro ke chakkar kaatne se aur khoon paseena ka paisa wakilo pe kurbaan karne se accha patni ke saamne sehme hue khargosh sa ban ja...dono cases mein lagegi...lekin khargosh ki acting karne mein paisa waste ni hoga...daaru cigarette pee ke mar mur ni jaayega...aur bacche ke saath khelne ka mauka bhi milega...

ek taraf khai aur doosri taraf kuan...kya karoge..."kuan maa doob jaoo, kuan maa doob jaao"

Shiv (Software Programmer) 25 May 2013

ek taraf khai aur doosri taraf kuan...kya karoge..."kuan maa doob jaoo, kuan maa doob jaao"

(Guest)

@helping hand:

Paisa toh mangegi court mein, agar nahi di toh tumko jail hosakti he [125crpc etc] - Are you sure imprisonment happens? if yes, what kind of it and how long and When?

As per my knowledge, there is no such law in India

rajiv_lodha (zz) 25 May 2013

1st take ur time to decide what is ur aim. If u want to save the matrimony, which is highly recommended as u ppl are going to have a baby soon..........do not involve police/court from ur side. Intervention from elders+marriage coucilling will work

If u have decided 2 end the relationship al2gather, safeguard urself & blow the trumpet. But remember, u wil be in soup for some yrs proving ur innosence, paying maint, longing 4 child visitation/custody.

Ajay Kumar (Sales Coordinator) 25 May 2013

@Rajiv_Lodha

Sir,

Main bhi ye Court or Police ke chakkar me nahi padna chahta but ye dhamki meri wife de rahi hai ki agar meri saari shartein nahi maani, jaise ki ghar aa kar main koi bhi kaam nahi karungi yaha tak ki mujhe bed par hi khana chahiye, mere kapde bhi nahi dhoungi. Sirf bed par hi rahungi.

Meri mummy bhi patient hain, unhe BP ki problem hai woh apna kaam hi mushkil se kar paati hain.

Kai baar ghar pe dono taraf se log ikattha huye but koi bhi meri wife ko samjhane me safal nahi ho paya. Unke saamne bolti hai ki theek hai ab jaisa sab bolenge waisa hi hoga but 2-3 din baad phir wohi kalesh.

(Guest)

@Need Justice,

125 crpc says, only after the court orders maintenance and husband is defaulter. That jail term renews every 1 month for 1 month period each.

It does not say, Jail for person who is not capable to pay. In other words, court cannot impose maintanance amount which is beyond capacity of husband.

Let me know if i am wrong.