Question to all 498a

The Men’s sentiments echoed by the son of the President of India’s Abhijit Mukherjee, M.P. were harshly condemned by the Women’s Organisation. His unconditional apologies only could console them. But by this time he had spoken what he wanted to speak. Certain things men cannot digest, for example pre-marital rape. They also demand liberty to women to walk down the streets of the cities in late night as well. Sometimes back I was watching a TV debate about Damini gang rape, in which a male Panelist said that in Delhi rape cases are increasing. The reason is mostly liquor. Hence something should be done to prohibit selling of liquor in the evening as the rape cases normally take place after intoxication. Two Women Panelists resented vociferously.  Awindra Pandey, friend of Damini who tried to save her from the culprits was also ignored. In Damini case, the then Chief Justice of India Justice Altamas Kabir said that if he had his say he would have gone to raise his voice in the then ongoing agitation against Damini rape. Woman Organisations would have taken a note of it. Everybody feels that it is the parents who can give moral education and ‘sanskar’ to their children. But they forget that today the children are not under the control of their parents. Now Rajya Sabha has passed a Bill in which provision has been made to grant inheritance right in the parental property of the husbands. Now the girls will get property from three sources i.e. their father, husband and father-in-law. But they forget normally husband’s purchase property in the name of their wives. They also hand over their full salary or income to their wives and beg money from their wives, from time to time, for their personal needs.  Now they will be scared and would think hundred times before handing over their full salary to them or purchasing property in the name of their wives. Women Organisations feel that pre-marital s*x, divorce, Maintenance allowance etc. should be allowed to the women as a matter of right for which Laws have already been framed. But they forget that boys are badly being harassed, simply because they are males. Hence the latest alternative which boys are brooding over is Live-in-relationship, which is already in vogue in metros. Marrying a girl means you are bringing a ‘live time-bomb’ which may explode any time. Women’s Organisations also want Marital Rape as an offence. They want a still more strict Section 498-A and Dowry Act. They lament in such cases the conviction rate is only 2%. The fact is most of the cases lodged against husbands are false. The Supreme Court took a notice of it and termed this as ‘legal terrorism’. The woman organisations are not ready to accept the men’s view point. As a result of FIR by his wife a husband who had to go to Jail and consequently gets bail prefers to lead a lonely life, instead of accepting the lady to lead a marital life afresh. The girl also repents because normally she finds no prospects of re-marriage in the present Indian society.  We must think in terms of how to save the Indian Family System and in case Women’s Organisations do not agree to this, divorce should become easier; Section 498-A and Dowry Act like anti-men provisions should be out of the Statute or should be diluted. The fact is there is no existence of men without women and there is no existence of women without men. Women Organisation should not make this matter ‘Men versus Women’.  They should take up all the rape cases. A Police Lady Constable was raped in Jharkhand in August last, while she was bringing the dead body of his relative from Ranchi to Latehar about which there was not a single word from the Women Organisations, why? The topic of the day is how to save Indian families? SIF (Save Indian Family) a man’s organisation is doing good work in this direction. The Government and the woman organisations should also take them into confidence.  The Government should also consider whether time is ripe when a ‘Purush Ayog’ should also be established to look after the grievances of men who suffer at the hands of woman? This will go a long way in saving Indian Families.   D.N.Barola,