Wife is blaming me as impotent

Hi my wife and i got married in feb 2013,

On valentine day?

it was a arrange marriage, iam working abroad, iam a Muslim .

and upon sympathy i married a poor girl,

Sympathy?  Agar sympathy hi dikhani thi  toh Kissi zoo ka animal adopt karlete.  Sympathy dikhaane shaadi karne ki kya jaroorat thi?  Wrong move.

whose father died did not ask for any dowry or any demand, it was poorly arranged Muslim marriage, but the problems all started from my wife side, because she married me because iam rich, and she wanted to leave lavishly,

Of course, you knew she was poor.  Nobody wants to get demoted.  Everybody wants promotion.  She wanted a promotion, so she married a rich guy, nothing wrong in it.  Who would want continue to be poor and live a poor lifestyle when husband is well to do???

and wanted to spend too much money,

Ok, she is your wife, nothing wrong in spending your money.

wanted to give money to her parents from my income found out that this is not good to spend all my savings on my wife parents, so i started advising my wife not to do so,

Good, you spoke to her regarding this.

then she started torturing me mentally.

How??

And her parents started me abusing that iam not a good person, very misery ,and I have undergone all this torture from her and her parents, then she started me comparing with other, in social status and personality etc etc,where as both of us look very good togather.but my wife expectation are too much, she wanted me to buy a lavish house, where she only want to leave without my parents.

She wanted me to follow her orders whatever she will say I have to do it, otherwise she will start torturing me, up on completion of vacation which I have taken from my work I return back to the country where iam working, mean while when I was in india,I tried a lot to apply for passport to my wife, due to insufficient documents from her part I could not get it done. now its been 5 months only that I have left my wife in my parents home.

Wrong move again.

she used to always demand me that she wanted to stay at her parents’ home once I will go abroad.

Yes, who would want to stay with your parents ie her inlaws? Either you should have taken her with you or left her with her parents, the former does not make any sense, what was the point in marrying if you were to leave your wife when you could not secure passport or visa for your wife?  Your wife's thinking is also correct in one way, but why did she marry someone who could not take her with him abroad???

But I did not listen to her due to some problems in my family.

Now for my shock all of sudden my wife went to her parents house with out taking my permission,

Yes, who would want to stay with your parents ie her inlaws? Either you should have taken her with you or left her with her parents, the former does not make any sense, what was the point in marrying if you were to leave your wife when you could not secure passport or visa for your wife?  Your wife's thinking is also correct in one way, but why did she marry someone who could not take her with him abroad???

and her mother  called me and abused me stating that iam impotent guy that is why I did not take my wife with me to abroad.

Impotent here is not that your d-i-c-k  does not raise, but what is a man who cannot even afford to take his wife with him that in Urdu is called namard.

That is what she meant.  Not that your d-i-c-k does not raise, but to make your d-i-c-k raise so that you can arrange to take your wife along with you,

And my mother in-law and her brother is threatening me that they will go to court and fill a case that iam impotent,

If they go to court, no problem.  Undergo a impotency test and prove that you can rise your d-i-c-k.

she is demanding me to pay her daughter 20 lacks compensation.

Instead of paying 20 lac compensation, take her with you, or send her money every month for her expenditure.

And my wife want to take divorce from me on this ground basis, and they are spreading this news among my society and relatives. Because every one is blaming their family that they are taking very wrong decision, even their close relatives also on my side only. my in-laws are already having very bad reputation In their area, before marriage nobody told us, now after this issues everyone is telling that my mother in-law did it with her husband also, and her mother did with her father also.

Where in real iam not at all impotent, iam s*xually very active guy, I used to participate in s*x a lot with my wife, but I don’t know why they are blaming me.i have very good reputation in my town. they are just defaming me because iam no more in their control.

Impotent here is not that your d-i-c-k  does not raise, but what is a man who cannot even afford to take his wife with him that in Urdu is called namard.

That is what she meant.  Not that your d-i-c-k does not raise, but to make your d-i-c-k raise so that you can arrange to take your wife along with you,

In this situation I wanted to ask you people that,

1.whether my in-laws can fill a case against me under 498A,(in real neither me nor my family demanded or tortured or verbally abuse my wife for dowry) ???whether this particular sections is applicable for all religions in india?????

YES.

2.Can I fill defame case against my in-laws with proper medical certificates that iam not  at all impotent. ?????
Yes.

3.can they confiscate my passport so that they want me to stop flying  abroad  ????
No.

4.what are all the possibilities that they can do against me legally
Many things they can do, like file cases like 498a, Domestic violence case, maintenance case etc etc etc.

5.what are all the possibilities that I can do against them legally.
File defamation case.  File prejury case.

 

I need best expert suggestion on this issue. Because iam facing too much mental torture and iam not able to focus on my job because of this nuisance.

This headache will go on and on, why?  Coz you married someone out of sympathy.  So better forget all these, and concentrate more on work.  Work = money.  Money needed for fighting false cases. Take your pick,  Worrying or doing job.