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Sunil (Manager)     01 November 2012

Wife left me and took kids

Hi,

We are married for about 9 years with 2 kids - 8 and 6.We have had our differences from the start on small things.Recently, we had big differences due to small issues and we stopped talking to each other for almost one year.She disrespected my mother couple of times when she tried to make her understand things.She is a housewife.

Two weeks back, i booked her tickets to visit my mother who was not well.She travelled with my kids and later got down at her mothers house which is near to my hometown.When I called her, she said she is not coming back to me or my house.She is not allow me to talk to kids also.I tried calling her many times but she will not pick the telephone.I live in hyderabad and our hometown is in north india so not easy for me to travel immdiately.

After 3 days she withdrew a relatively big amount of money from our common account.And she is not picking up phone.I have now stopped calling her and plan to visit north india in 2 weeks time.

I have never hit her or anything but we have had arguments as in a normal household.

I'm worried abot my kids and their future and our relationship future.She has taken such a big step.I'm the only earning person and have monetory commitments.My question is that if she can take such a step as to withdraw money without my knowledge and leave me with kids and not allowing me to even talk to me, she can very well file a domestic violence case against me so that she can stay at her mothers house and get money for kids education.She took their passports too.

Please help me in understanding what should I do.If she puts a domestic violence case, what should I do.Due to my job, travelling for attending cases will be impossible.

All your suggestions on this domestic act and my rights are most welcome.

Regards,



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 4 Replies

Tajobsindia (Senior Partner )     01 November 2012

The question which you should ask yourself that is this marriage presumably dead from both sides first?

Why ? Bze. Your 2 minor kids in mid school academic year have been removed from their school and taken to their mother’s natal home right now and you are planning to go there in some weeks time which is not what welfare of child says that the father should be doing !

 

So decide fast what you want to take out of such bolt out of the sky situation - is it revenge, divorce, custody or visitation, one time alimony or something else.

The reasonable understood answer you now give will guide you with social and/or legal course you should be taking across South – North distance r/w job as barrier of the mind.

stanley (Freedom)     01 November 2012

 

Originally posted by : Sunil

Hi

I'm worried abot my kids and their future and our relationship future.She has taken such a big step.I'm the only earning person and have monetory commitments.My question is that if she can take such a step as to withdraw money without my knowledge and leave me with kids and not allowing me to even talk to me, she can very well file a domestic violence case against me so that she can stay at her mothers house and get money for kids education.She took their passports too.

Please help me in understanding what should I do.If she puts a domestic violence case, what should I do.Due to my job, travelling for attending cases will be impossible.

All your suggestions on this domestic act and my rights are most welcome.

Regards,

Being a joint account either of you can withdraw from it so empty your account now that you know that she is capable of doing the same  . you dont have to worry about a domestic violence case . Let her file the case and she has to prove the false allegations in court . In the DV case you can seek exemption form attending the court only when called for at evidence stage you would have to be present . Bad to know that during the academic year she has pulled out the children . 

 

And as Tajobs has asked only after your reply  you can be guided . Visitation you would get at any cost so dont worry be happy .

Sunil (Manager)     01 November 2012

Hi, Thanks for replying.I want to continue my family.My wife Has never shared anything personal with me past 10 years.I'm worried about my kids.I cannot go to north India immediately as working in private sector.will be going during diwali. 1. Please advise that once I go,I case she does not allow me to talk to kids,what should I do. 2.Should I talk to her as why she left home and withdrew money. 3. If she calls police and blame domestic violence etc.,what should I do. I have these doubts as if she can take a step to leave me along with kids and take out money and take passports,she can go to any extent to teach me a lesson.she knows kids are my weakness. Any suggestion and advice are welcome and in thankful to you for sharing my problem and advising me. Regards, Sunil Sunil

stanley (Freedom)     01 November 2012

 

Originally posted by : Sunil

Hi,
Thanks for replying.I want to continue my family.My wife Has never shared anything personal with me past 10 years.I'm worried about my kids.I cannot go to north India immediately as working in private sector.will be going during diwali.

who  has stopped you from continuing with your family 
1. Please advise that once I go,I case she does not allow me to talk to kids,what should I do.

In the absence of any injunction  she cant stop you from visiting the kids . Be a Man and start behaving like one pull up your socks else you may have to dres up in  lingerie  . your kids are grown up 9 yrs and 8 yrs and they understand everything .


2.Should I talk to her as why she left home and withdrew money.

Thats your personel matter and you can do as you choose 
3. If she calls police and blame domestic violence etc.,what should I do.

Police dont have a right to arrest you in a domestic violence case .If she files a case contest the case and her false allegations .

I have these doubts as if she can take a step to leave me along with kids and take out money and take passports,she can go to any extent to teach me a lesson.she knows kids are my weakness.

Doubts are different from reality live with the facts 

Any suggestion and advice are welcome and in thankful to you for sharing my problem and advising me.
Regards,
Sunil

Sunil


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