Dear Sushma Sharma,
From the above posts its seems clear that you are a caring and loving woman but your husband didn’t change his mind even after becoming a father .You have done every effort to maintain your marriage but here your husband don’t care about you or your baby.Its very sad thing.
“I asked him to call his parents so that we all can have a discussion but he dint ask his parents to come here. After that he has not called even once to check abt the baby.”
1 As I dont think there is any future with my husband as he has not shown any interest in the baby, how would I go for divorce ?
Yes, there is no future with your husband.My advise is to go for divorce by mutual consent .or file a divorce case.
2. Can I ask for one-time settlement for the maintenance of the baby?( I have started working from last 2 months)
Yes, you ask for one time settlement maintenance for your baby .suppose you file divorce by mutual consent then put this condition for maintenance.
You said I am based at Bangalore. Suchitra. S is also from Bangalore. (LCI MEMBER) you can get advise from her.
After one year forgets about DV act or other, you can’t get justice that is sure .Only to do is to continue your work (Job) and take care of your baby. Ask for divorce and I am sure he is ready for the same and he can also ready to give one-time settlement for the maintenance of the baby. Don’t invest money for filing 498A or Dv act .
Your question shows that you have decided to walkout from matrimonial life and from the above story its 100% true. Better to concentrate to your parents and your kids and your job
Men don't take responsibility because they are often immature. I think that most people agree that men tend to mature slower than the average woman.( Osho also said this) This isn't always true, but it is true enough to be a recurring problem in marriages.
In 99 cases out of a 100, the wife will rate the marriage worse than the husband. There's a problem and he refuses to see it, or deal with it, or take responsibility for it.
I can guarantee that more women will read this thread than men. It's an unfortunate tragedy.
Men tend to react to life and often force their wives into making the decisions rather than make difficult decisions of their own. The average woman doesn't like a controlling husband. But that same woman doesn't want a lump on the log for a husband either. Often, a woman's security comes from a husband that is willing to make the hard choices in life and then to act upon it. She is secure with a loving husband that doesn't act like a pinball machine, but has direction and purpose.
It is true that a man makes a mistake when he doesn't incorporate his wife's opinion into any decision. But to make her make the decision because you are unwilling to is frustrating for most women. And just as hurtful is the husband who only makes decisions that are in his own interests. This will strip away his wife's security. She'll balk at a husband who’s apparent only interest is himself.
