Dominating Life
A group of men approached GOD complaining about their hardships in family life. after hearing the complaint, GOD asked the men to line up in the following manner. all those who are dominated by their wife and all those who dominate their wife. the first line was very long while in the second line there was only one. The amused GOD told the men in the first line to lean from the lone man in the second line. THEN The curious GOD asked the lone man'what made you stand alone in the second line?He replied in a soft voice"My wife told me to stand here until she tells to move.” Even the great philosopher Aristotle held that men are superior to women.
DOMINATING
The adjective DOMINATING has 3 senses:
1. most powerful or important or influential
2. used of a height or viewpoint
3. offensively self-assured or given to exercising usually unwarranted power
A new research revealed that the secret of a happy marriage is the woman's power, making decisions and dominating discussions. Really True or Not?
"The study at least suggests that the marriage is a place where women can exert some power. Whether or not it's because of changing societal roles, we don't know," said lead author David Vogel, a psychologist at Iowa State University (ISU).
This challenges previous researches.
"They have largely based that on the fact that traditionally men earn more money and so therefore would have the ability to make big decisions in the relationship".
The research was made on 72 married couples, with the spouses having an average age of 33 and being married for about seven years. 66 % were Caucasian, followed by Asian (22 %), Hispanic (5 %) and African American (4 %); the rest of 3 % was made of other nationalities. Each spouse completed a questionnaire about relationship satisfaction and overall decision-making ability. Each spouse had to point a relationship problem which required the other's cooperation.
Money and housework were the most common issues, while s*x had an insignificant importance as a marital issue.
The most frequently chosen issues by husbands/wives were money (18 %/13 %), housework (15 %/15 %), friends and family (10 %/19 %), feelings and emotions (10 %/13 %), time together (13 %/10 %), making decisions (18 %/4 %), s*x (4 %/1 %), intimacy (1 %/1 %), communication (3 %/4 %), children (husbands never chose this topic; 3 % of wives), relationship changes (4 %/17 %).
The team videotaped the couples while they discussed each of the issues for 10 minutes. The videotapes were classified employing a scale that marked couples' interactions based on words and behaviors linked with blame (accusations and partner's criticizing); demand (nags, pressures for change, requests); withdrawal and avoidance (hesitating to tackle the subject, changing topics, diverting attention or looking away); and discussion.
Wives were much more demanding, attending to change their relationship or their partner and could do it more often than their partner, no matter who had chosen the issue.
"It wasn't just that the women were bringing up issues that weren't being responded to, but that the men were actually going along with what they said. [Women] were communicating more powerful messages, and men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in." explained Vogel.
"Women are responsible for overseeing the relationship, making sure the relationship runs, that everything gets done, and that everybody's happy. There's been research that suggests that's a marker of a healthy marriage - that men accept influence from their wives," said co-researcher Megan Murphy.
You see many links on the internet that women dominating their husband mostly.
Domination, submission, humility are all relative terms in family life and management. A person appearing to be dominant and trying to distance the partner from parents, often reveals the strong possessive habitual nature of the female and the intense feeling of love and insecurity of the thought of losing it. By your behaviour and assuring words the situation can be converted from disadvantage to advantage for both of you to share a success story.
It’s a cultural change where in place of Regards or Respect, females in particular are more career conscious. Hence either take a non-professional wife or accept the Cutural Shift.
Author Deadman On Campus said,
“As the idea of contract enters the Law of Marriage, it breaks the rule of the male, and makes the wife a partner with equal rights. From a one-sided relationship resting on force, marriage thus becomes a mutual agreement. Nowadays the position of the woman differs from the position of the man only in so far as their peculiar ways of earning a living differ. Woman’s position in marriage was improved as the principle of violence was thrust back, and as the idea of contract advanced in other fields of the Law of Property it necessarily transformed the property relations between the married couple. The wife was freed from the power of her husband for the first time when she gained legal rights ever the wealth which she brought into marriage and which she acquired during marriage. That marriage unites one man and one woman that it can be entered into only with the free will of both parties that the rights of husband and wife are essentially the same — these principles develop from the contractual attitude to the problem of married life.”
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