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Live-in boyfriends do more housework than husbands

 

Live-in boyfriends do more housework than husbands

 

A live-in relationship certainly seems to have some advantages over marriage for women, especially with a new study finding that live-in boyfriends do a lot more housework than married men.
 

The study was carried out by researchers at George Mason University who questioned more than 17,000 people in 28 countries.
 
They found that married men tend to help around the house less than live-in boyfriends.
 
According to study co-author, sociologist Shannon Davis, the key finding of the study is that it suggests the institution of marriage changes the division of labour.
 
Couples with an egalitarian view on gender--seeing men and women as equal--are more likely to divide the household chores equally. However, in married relationships, even if an egalitarian viewpoint is present, men still report doing less housework than their wives.
 
"Marriage as an institution seems to have a traditionalizing effect on couples--even couples who see men and women as equal," says Davis.
 

"Our research suggests that couples across many countries are influenced by similar factors when deciding how to divide the housework. It's the way the society has defined what being married means, the institution itself, that affects behaviour," she added.
 
Co-authors on the study were Theodore Greenstein and Jennifer Gerteisen Marks of North Carolina State University.
The study is published in the Journal of Family Issues
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Info:https://www.mid-day.com/relationships/2011/feb/070211-live-in-boyfriends-household-chores-husbands-relationship.htm

 



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 12 Replies

Avnish Kaur (Consultant)     08 February 2011

so livin is the best thing in

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Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     08 February 2011

it's bound to be.

 

men dont show egos,that they do in marriages,else they will be labelled as joru ka gulam.

there's no intereference of inlaws,girls dont have to "please" inlaws,unlike in marriages

 

live is the best,if both are unmarried.

 

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Ambika (NA)     08 February 2011

Agree witb Roshani. Kushan ji, a big YES to your post. Not only gender division of labour, marriage changes the entire attitude of a boy even if it a love marriage. In the courting days, say for exaqmple, the girl firend wear whatever she wants to , denims,and skirts say for example. The moment she gets married the frined turned husband now insists on wearing "appororiate clothings" , I have seen many cases like this...

Turning into husband matamorphosise a gender equal thought and action driven boy/man into a husband who adopts now superior-inferior relationship attitude towards self and wife...

Live in relationship cannot be taken for granted and it is based completely on mutual love and respect....which many marriages susbsisting or failed otherwise lack....

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Arup (UNEMPLOYED)     08 February 2011

" live is the best,if both are unmarried"

NOT FOR UNMARRIED, MARRIED MEN ALSO.

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Arup (UNEMPLOYED)     08 February 2011

Live-in boyfriends do more housework than husbands

 - QUITE NATURAL.

THERE IS ALWAYS A FEAR OF - LOSING THE GIRL FRIEND.

Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     08 February 2011

oh arup jee senti ho gaye.

 

koi nahi..hum aapki bhawna ko samajh sakte hai.small fonts me bhi samajh aa jayengi.

 

dont worry u wont lose her.

 

ok arup jee,now share with all LCI men here...the BIG secret of your successful live in relations with her,because of which u always promote it..

please tell all the males here,which household works you do everyday because of which she's sticking to u...

those men who want to have live in relations but are afraid of losing their GFs will be inspired by your high energy levels even at this age,coz of which u manage your house so well....

next time i want to see you on the cover story of India Today....Ha?

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Arup (UNEMPLOYED)     08 February 2011

LEGAL BINDING SHAPE THE MARRIAGE IN AN UNNATURAL SHAPE.

IN A LEGAL MARRIAGE FINDING THE FAULT OF OTHER PARTY IS IN CENTRE POINT AND HIGHLIGHTED AS MAIN POINT OF CONSIDERATION. THE PURPOSE IS VERY SIMPLE. BY THIS WAY ONE CAN EXTRACT MAINTENANCE.

IN A LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP, THE MAIN FOCUS IS ON LOVE AFFECTION AND SUBMISSION.

FOR A MARRIAGE,  WHICH ONE IS MORE IMPORTANT - EARNING MAINTENANCE OR LOVE, AFFECTION AND SUBMISSION.

UNNECESSARY GOVERNMENTAL INTERFERENCE CREATE THIS DIFFRENCE.

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Arup (UNEMPLOYED)     08 February 2011

"oh arup ........."

- that is trade secrate.

i do not like to show myself publicly, as a -  'jaru ka gulam'.

N.K.Assumi (Advocate)     09 February 2011

Why make a Big Fuse over this matter? Come on yeah, let him enjoy his domestic labor.

Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     09 February 2011

koi baat nahi arup granduncle

 

appne LCI ko bata dia ki aap joru ke gulaam hai...bas ye baat LCI members tak hee rahhegi

Jamai Of Law (propra)     09 February 2011

Ha.ha ha ha

 

Kushan ji is absolutely correct !!!

 

"Marriage as an institution seems to have a traditionalizing effect on couples (the effect is a stereotypical one ..............the like .....man should maintain his family....child support is co-extensive....etc etc) -- even couples who see men and women as equal," says Davis.

But ............ Indian Woman are more keen towards marriage than live-in unfortunately ....Very few men in India would prefer marriage if they have a choice to go for live in or if they find a woman ready for a live-in!!

 

Live-in is created purely for the convenience of the men!!! and they only publicise it and do marketing!! Who won't  like to have just  the enjoyment part?

 

 

 

 

There are many other similar examples..........

 

Temporary workers in a Office..............they  work more than permanent ones.

But they contribute in a lower grades and as they can't be enrusted for long term strategies of a company!!!

 

 

So they either end doing low take/less responsibility  job and over the period they are replaced also (if they become  irreplaceable/very important to company ...................then they are given reward and ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,they made permanent...But the moment they are made permanent they relax................Is their relaxing a wrongs.......... Answer is Yes as well as No.

 

If company expects them to work with the same zeal as temporary workers, after they were made permanent...then actually it is a UNFAIR/wrong/unnatural expectation by the company!!!!

 

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N.K.Assumi (Advocate)     10 February 2011

Gigolo/Concubine or Live in Relationship versus Marriage based on Love that builds a Home. The Choice is yours.Live in Relationship is based on convenience of the parties, it looks beautiful but it is like a beutiful poisinous Flower that destroy. So the choice is yours to take.


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