Sir/ Ma'am, I am Abha, from Jhansi, UP. I was married to Mr. Ankur Saxena, working in IBM, Chennai as team lead. We got in touch thru Bharat Matrimony in Oct, 2010. But when his parents told I would hv to settle down in Chennai, we dropped the alliance. But somehow, we again came in touch in Dec, 2010. They made n number of commitments and promises, about moving to NCR soon after marriage and that I was supposed to go to Canada vid my husband immediately after marriage, since he was there fro an onsight project then.
Things fell in place and we got married on 5th May, 2011 in Jaipur. But immediately the frauds started unveiling. I was not told before marriage that my husband's work permit was about to expire soon after marriage and I will not be able to apply for visa till it gets renewed. He flew back on 17th May'2011, committing that I wud soon join him or he wud fly back. He left me in Chennai vid his parents. There the torture started. Dowry and public insultings, emotional harressments, mental shocks regarding my parents and my family. When I told tjis to my husband he started denying everything and called me a confused personality.
Finally, when I saw no chances of me going to Canada, I strictly objected and he flew back to India on 25th August 2011. Meanwhile, I and my in-laws came back from Chennai to Jaipur(my in-laws place). And the torture was so much that I had to keep travelling between my native place and Jaipur till my husband came back. Whenever I was i Jaipur, I and my parents were insulted and abused in front of ppl frm outside, guests and relatives. I was threatened to keep quiet. While I was sick in Jaipur and suffrerd skin infection and fever in Chennai, I was denied any kind of medical aid.
My husband kept saying once he is back he wud take care of everything. When he came back in august, we stayed in Chennai, although, that was a thing that we had striclty objected to, but since now afetr marriage their frauds started showing up, I compromised and went to stay in Chennai. There the tortures continued in my husband's presence and kept aggravating 24x7. My husband kept quite and made me also quiet saying that it was the best way to calm down things. Meanwhile, I concieved and started falling sick. Still I had to literally fight to get medical help. Finally my in-laws sent me away from Chenna saying that I shud ask my parents to bear my medical expenses and if I dne agree for a s*x determination of my unborn, then I was not supposed to stay vid them. I m vid my parents from Nov'2011.
I gave birth to a daughter on 1st June 2012. My inlaws were firey mad at me and fought when they came to visit me. Even took my husband into confidence that I had broken the family tradition of giving birth to a son and forced a burden on him. Unfortunately, my daughter passed away due to respuratory arrest on 13th Aug'2012.
Only my husband came 3 days late and said I could come back only if I was ready to give up all contacts vid my parents and brother and agreed to live the way they wanted. I denied and he stopped all contacts vid me from 15th Sept'2012. I tried to talk to him thru mails, my parents called his parents and requested to let communication continue between him and me but no use.
I even asked him to take me to Chennai to save our marriage, but no response. Now they filed RCR in Chennai, but the copy of petition did not come to me, But I came to know thru sources that they have blamed my parents for keeping me in Jhansi as an earning member for themselves. And that there was no such discussion about Chennai and NCR b4 marriage.
I do not want to divorce my husband, but I cannot run to Chennai for the RCR coz I belong to a lower middle class family. Please advice.
