The story of rape, marriage, family, society and law
At a time when India is burning with the rape issues and world attention is drawn towards rape incident in Badaun in U.P., everybody is thinking about the contours of the psyche of man that indulges in rape. What happens in the minds of men who rape? Why do they do that? We need answers to some of these questions. Suitable and convincing.
My personal views may appear somewhat bizarre to people who read this article, but all the same, they may also interest them propel them to cogitate to achieve greater depths of intellect. In my view, rape is assertion of domination and might of man over the freewill of a woman. That may appear too simplistic. But what happens in the mind of a rapist? Why does he think like that the way he does when he indulges in that crime?
9 out of 10 people have a rapist in them. If not rapist, the psyche of a rapist in them. They do not like if you simply like to do what they tell you to do. They like if you don’t like it and resist them, their ideas and their commands. They want you to argue with them. The equation is – you should object, antagonize, argue, protest and resist their thoughts and ideas. And they should BE ABLE to compel you to do the things that you do not like to do by Official Power or Muscle Power. Only manifestations are different. The basic urge is same. That is about the pleasure of power and domination in a human being. They all become Presidents of Countries and Companies in West. In India they become Ministers, MPs, MLAs, Managers, General Managers, Thekedaars, Thaanedaars and Rapists.
What this pleasure of power is about? From where it has come into the consciousness of a man? Did it exist ever since the man started gaining social consciousness?
Let us find out.
We all know about stone age man. He was hunting animals eating them to feed himself. He was not civilized yet. His thinking faculties were almost equal to those of animals. They were not ignited yet by the fire of intelligence and knowledge. At that time, men and women had s*x with each other like animals. There was no institution of family, marriage etc.
At that time, the first seeds of knowledge and intelligence were sown by God in a woman only. That too was about the issue of justice. No man who had not suffered ever thinks of justice. A woman was sufferer then. She was used for s*x like an animal by man. She used to give birth to children, took the responsibility (natural responsibility, like birds and animals do) of them. Repeated childbirths was a pain for her. She did not have contraceptives. She had no idea how to avoid labor pains and child births. But somehow, she felt it is injustice that man simply takes pleasure and escapes and woman bears the travails associated with feeding them and bringing them up and teaching life skills.
But even to feel that she is sufferer she must know what is responsible for the birth of a child. So the quest of a mankind began when woman started thinking, how do I give birth to a child? What is responsible for it. Slowly she gained intelligence that if she indulges in s*x, she gives birth to child. That is how mankind realized that man is also responsible for the birth of a child. The next question that mankind dealt with was – who among the men who mate with a woman is responsible for birth of a child. Number of men mate with number of women like animals. So how do they know who is the father of a child?
They needed to know the answer for this question because they needed to affix responsibility of a child on man along with woman.
Everyman used to dodge saying, I am not responsible, she mates with so many men how am I alone responsible for it. The first panchayat of mankind was held to discuss the problem of deciding how to find out the father of child. Some learned men sympathized with women on this issue. That is how SOCIETY came into existence. Much before the law came into existence, the family and institution of marriage came into existence, the society came into existence by not behaving like animals and by not Sympathizing with Rogue elements who coerce women for s*x. The society of learned men and sufferers in women decided that one man should mate only one woman so that people know who is the father of the child. That is how institution of marriage came into existence. But that was of no avail. As you can see, it is in the very make up of Nature that man is irresponsible pleasure seeker and woman is sufferer and troubled with responsibility to labor to give birth to children and then to provide food, shelter, life skills to them. Man, in pursuit of pleasures continued to assert his domination over woman to have s*xual pleasures. Women know now that it leads to child birth so they resist.
The first crime that mankind knew and legislated was on Rape. It existed even before he gained consciousness and give shape to his thoughts in the form of language. It is not Social Crime as Babulal Gaur pointed out. The very Society and Civilization came into existence because of it. It is not that first society formed and then the problem of rape began. Coming back to our story -
Even when some learned men and women decided that one man should have s*xual pleasures with only one woman, men continued their pleasures and kept raping them in that pursuit. So the second panchayat of mankind held declared that Rape is a crime.
We can see how all these are interconnected. The first institution that came into existence was marriage. The first law that mankind legislated was Rape. How did they want to protect women? They said, the men who rape should be punished. Who will punish them? And some men should stand to protect them from rapists. Who will protect them?
That responsibility was given to husband himself and then to the offsprings and siblings. That is how gradually the institution of family came into existence to protect women. We can see that the very concept of civilization began with lending justice to women and for women. Man understood the word “responsibility” from the sufferings of woman who give repeated child births. Those who understood her agony and pain became “society” because they were civilized enough not to coerce her for s*x knowing of its consequences. They brought institutions of marriage and family into existence. They legislated against rape. Without avoiding rape there is no way a woman could have been prevented from repeated child births which is a big labor pain for her.
The beneficiary and focal point of all the social institutions and laws that mankind invented and made was woman. It all emanated from RAPE. There is no crime perhaps older than Rape.
Now that woman has known how to prevent child birth with the help of science, she is able to say I don’t believe in the institution of marriage. But without marriage man would have remained an irresponsible beast pursuing his pleasures, exercising his domination and might over the freewill of a woman.
Now coming back to the issue of Badaun, what is so disturbing to WORLD is a man, who should have been part of LEARNED MEN who formed as SOCIETY that brought the civilization of mankind into existence to protect the rights of a woman, sympathizing with “pleasure seeking men” who have the tendency to assert their might and domination over women. The explanation given by Mr. Waqar of Samajwadi Party at various newschannels that Netaji said about it, in the context of live in relationships and false implication cases where men were found to be innocent is totally false and misguiding.
Samajwadi party leaders are so “ingenuous” that they do not know that the world is too clever that it identifies when they lie. If boy is innocent there is no question of saying “boys will be boys”. Only if they commit some mischief you would sympathize with them to say – CHALO YAAR BOYS WILL BE BOYS. Why cannot they understand this simple logic?
The danger that country perceives from this attitude is, this attitude of Netaji trickles down into the veins of already defunct police administration and make them BOY FRIENDLY.
The greater danger to democracy is that the leaders started perceiving that there are very big vote banks and social constituencies among people who would revel and appreciate if criminal is sympathized with and victim is lampooned. And statements like BOYS WILL BE BOYS is aimed at pleasing those vote banks to turn them into votes. But in all this passion Netaji forgot that women constitute almost half of the population anywhere in the world and if they unite against him, he will be routed in elections.
Even after seeing the result in Loksabha elections if Netaji and his partymen are sympathizing with BOYS saying bechaare kyaa karenge, Media, Pornography, Social Media, Internet aisaa banaadete…..then they need one more drubbing in coming assembly elections from people of Uttar Pradesh. If it is all wrong, then why did they distribute Laptops among youth in U.P.?
I don’t think people are on the wrong side. Their collective wisdom is always appreciable and upright. They already sent right signals by defeating Samajwadi Party in Loksabha elections badly. It is Netaji who is miscalculating them thinking he might appeal to some Dilwaalon Ke Dilkaa Karaar Lootne constituency which exists only in his mind. India needs people who can govern and bring criminals to justice, not psychologists and sociologists who spend time in finding out reasons for problems and people who preach and sermonize on behalf of criminals.
