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Kreamwichs (Salaried)     18 February 2011

Threat from a Girl----Need Help

I was into an relationship with a girl from mumbai. i met her in a bar where she was working as a dancer. Since last 4 years i havent had any sought of relationship with her but used to talk to her on phone just bcoz i was afraid that she may come to my home and tell about it as she has some of my pics along with her and my families image will be spoiled.

i was engaged in 2009 amd got married in 2010. i told her that i dont want keep any sought of relation with her as i am married and have may more responsibilities. She used to call me and asked me to talk to her and demands money so i changed my cell no but 2 days back she just came to my bldg and was enquiring about me. she had also threatened me about commiting suicide or a false rape case against me. i had been to the local PS but they refused to take my complaint and infact told me that if the girl complains i will be in trouble. please help me out.

Am happily married and i love my wife a lot and dont want to keep any extra marrital affairs.

 

Please suggest me a solution as know am mentally disturbed bcoz of the mistake i made yrs back.



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(Guest)

Tell us the EXACT REASON why she is demanding money.For example:If you had made her pregnant ,and now she has your child's financial responsibility?

 

If this is untue,still tell us why she wants money?

 

Kreamwichs (Salaried)     18 February 2011

She stays alone in mumbai and has no child. Earlier the bar business was good enough for her now may be she is not earning that well so she is demanding money from me stating some or the other reason like household expenses rent etc .

Kreamwichs (Salaried)     18 February 2011

She stays alone in mumbai and has no child. Earlier the bar business was good enough for her now may be she is not earning that well so she is demanding money from me stating some or the other reason like household expenses rent etc .

Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     18 February 2011

assuming that you are telling the truth,I advise you to record her threats,blackmailing and so on.

 

From  a public phone you may warn her strictly that if she harasses you in future you will take legal action.(However confirm about my phone call advice from a lawyer,to ensure your own safety,since feminists have a soft corner for home breaking women.So you may be in trouble)

 

Remember,bullies are basically cowards.If they are snubbed strongly,they shut up (personal experience at LCI)

She has no ground on basis of which she can file any case.Not even  a rape case.Because if she does so,there will be no injury or forced penetration marks in her private parts.

And how can she allege rape after so many yrs. of her relationship?

If there were any love letters exchanged b/w you in the past,they will further prove that the relationship was a mutual one.
 

No one can harm you on basis on a past affair.Past affair is not a crime although it can create rifts b/w you and your wife,if she comes to know.So grow closer to her more than ever now.Make her fall so madly in love with you that she never doubts you even when this blackmailer tries to create any problem.And remain FAITHFUL to her always.

 

Meanwhile wait for legal opinions here,as I'm not a lawyer.So my advice is more social kind.

 

Good luck!

 

P.S-this is not a family problem.u shud have posted this query in criminal law forum,to get advice from specialists who can deal very specifically with your kind of problem.

Kreamwichs (Salaried)     18 February 2011

@Roshni B

 

Thanks for the reply. I have right before my marriage told my wife about it. and we both love and believe each other a lot. Infact a couple of days back i have also informed my family about the mistake i had done earlier and they are with me. 

Sonia Saini (advocate)     19 February 2011

Do not worry ..i guess the lady is just harassing you. lodge a complaint if you have family suporrt

Arup (UNEMPLOYED)     19 February 2011

From  a public phone you may warn her strictly that if she harasses you in future you will take legal action.

don't threat. come on streight legal action.

she blackmailing you. inform higher police officials in writting and take official receipt of it.

you are shakey, this is your loopwhole and her weapon.

take help of some matured and dare person of your family and well wishers of your family.

also inform the matter to your wife, prepare her mentaly, and request help for it.

i guess she will come forward to help you.

do not feel guilty, it is quite natural in young age.

but for that you can not waste the rest of your life. 

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A.VIVEK ADVOCATE (ADVOCATE)     19 February 2011

get  a personal advice /assitance from your advocate


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