Mental cruelty
SAURABH KUMAR SHARMA
(Querist) 04 March 2022
This query is : Resolved
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I live in Pune, India. Got married in December 2021 in Delhi and moved in with my wife in Pune, 5 days after our marriage, as part of marital responsibilities I agreed to pay out 80% of my salary for expenditure while I have a educational loan, LIC payment & Parental responsibility as obligations, due to the obligations though I paid the said amount for two months but was short of money due to debt payoff, though I have agreed to pay 1/3th of my salary amounting to INR 20000 (my salary is INR 55000 (in hand)), wife denies that and sought what we had agreed to pay i.e. 80% of the salary, she has a business and takes INR 2 lacs/month. With the obligations, I have not been able to sustain my own needs and if I continue paying her the 80% it would be tough for me to pay off my obligations, let alone even buy a new T-Shirt for me and I have not been able to book a flight ticket back home as after I pay her and my obligations I am left with just INR1500 or lesser every month. Also, she has said that she can't cut down on any spending or whatsoever and wants to pay 50-50 share if I want to stay with her or she would throw me out of the place as mentioned rented on her name (constant threat), I even paid the electricity and gas bill over the amount she asked. How much can I legally give her as she threatened to throw me out out the house and call police (we are staying in a place which she has rented out before marriage in Pune and refuses to stay with my parents). Once she had also threatened to commit suicide over a video call by showing me to cut her wrist which I later on got to know that she had just acted out as she did not have any bandage or anything the very next day. As of present she moved out of India for one of her Diploma Courses in Dubai, she had paid for everything by herself. Now even after her course is over she is planning to stay back and apply for work in other country (I am not against that but we have not even spent a month together post marriage). There is constant nagging from her on me for not able to take care of her and her needs and that I earn less and she wanted someone who can take care of every needs of hers (she herself confessed over phone call that she seeks a man like that now) I am totally shattered by this. As a matter of fact I cant go back to my home as I ran away from home. My parents did make me come back and they managed to marry us. But with all the mental stigma overlooming I am mentally broken. I have started recording her calls now as she has a new way of nagging me everyday, I know this might be a criminal case against me for recording calls without her knowledge but after so much as explained above, I am scared she would put up false cases against me and my family, it has jolted me and I am just recording so that I can save myself if that can be permissible in court.
I have been forwarded with a helping hand from one of the lawyers in other forums (but i could not explain the whole situation due to word limit). I want esteemed LCI members to suggest what can i do, it maybe stupid now to say I dont want a divorce, hence seeking advice how can i legally counter if she does something to me).
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 06 March 2022
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