Greeting to all of you out here..
Am new to this forum and i really dint knew where to seek help so came through this website and forum..
Well i was in relationship with a guy now it completes like 8 months since we started dating..When intially we started we spoke as friends but it was more than a friendship and yes we did speak like we in relationship ..it was a long distance relationship so he wanted to meet and say me that he loves me and over the times he use to b confused..we usually spoke over skype and phone..one fine day he decided to come and meet me in india..we wanted to spend time with each other and know well to proceed our relationship furthur for marraige..and we did this man treated me like princess the moment he arrived he proposed me..We both crossed our limits when we met i had felt he is the man who im gonna spend my life with..he made several promises infact he was the one to make them..spoke abt having kids house how to spend life what he expects from me..he gave me many promises about never leaving me getting married and stuff not for a single minute i felt that he wud ever change..yes we have decided if things dont work we would be good friends but it was only if things dont work out.but after meeting things had changed cause we decided to take our relationship a step furthur...He was the one who approached me and slowly slowly even i started loving him crazy..since he met me had vacation and since he left from india he is been avioding me big time..everytime i call he says he is busy with some work..so days passed and one day i spoke abt commitment since he had asked me and my mother to to wait for him to take decision abt how to take our marriage thingie furthur..But when i asked him he started ignoring me fighting for no reason and blaming all mistake like we are not compatible since you keep on calling and disturbing stuff..i stroongly started feeling he is making some reason..and i never felt i was wrong that i called him cause when you love someone how can you stay without talking to that person for so many days and due to this i use to call him..he blocked me everywer skype whats app facebook..everywer.
I was really disturbed so one day i spoke to one girl who i saw was common in my n his fb list..to my surprise i got to know this man is cheating me cause he is married with a kid..and he never told me about all this he kept on telling me he has sister who stays in bangalore and a niece..which now i know is his wife and kid..he spoke many things abt his past false to make me emotionally weak..i still cannot figure it out wht he wanted from me just to get phycial or just to have a good time..I trusted him a lot cause the suituation he presented in front of me made me believe forget me my mother believed him more than me..i have got to know he was staying separate from his wife just for ter kids they r back together..he always use to tell me lets run away we will take his niece along with us..niece is his daughter which i have just got to know...I had asked him when i got to know about his marraige he says thats his past and started shouting on me only that why im digging into his past..but later on i have got to know he still stays with his wife and kid in same house..i even have evidence that he stays with them.Sometimes i even feel like calling up his wife cause i got to know he has treated her bad in past so she was seperated and just got together cause he was scared to pay alomany amt after divorse..and he finds his wife very simple and out of fashion..I lot of time feel like calling her up and speaking to her..cause the information which i got from abt my guy is his wife sister who is my friend..She told me no one speaks to him due to his behavior.
Now my question is i just have few chats and pictures which proves he was here with me and we are in a relationship for more than a friend and yes that he loves me to..i even have that msg wer he spoke false abt his marraige cause i had asked him if he is marrried when we spoke for first time and he said no..So this small small evidence i have.Since he has cheated on me im very disturbed and now m 3 at the age of getting married where he has cheated and left me in vain..i feel like a looser if i dont raise my voice tomorrow he will do this with some other woman..
I want to raise my voice but i just dont know how to go about it..should i go to seek help to some NGO and on the basis of what i have wrote above can i do anything...Earlier also im been cheated by my x he knew that ofcourse..this man made me wait and now he says get married where ur parents say..i cant just sit quite and let him go so easily..even still he speaks lies to me that his wife is his past..he dosent know that i have got to know he truth..He is coming to india in August should i wait and give hima chance to speak and if he dosent what should i do..
i please request you all to gimme sujjestion if today i sit quite he might spoil more life and play with smeone else emotions..i want justice..his wife stays in bangalore and this man s really scared of his image in society..should i go to his house and meet his wife or should i wait for him to come..and what i can do..am asking cause things should not take a wrong turn on me..
i want everyman on this earth to understand we woman are not toy to b played with.