Concern in taking 498a wife

@samuel, rightly said!

Seeing the state of affairs, and the mode of bonds, wonder why emotions have been brought down to mere stats? is there nothing beyond stats? when two get married, unless it is violent, there seems no reason how such walls come between where everything is placed on a graph?

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'Lack of Communication' The essence and the earnest will to bond and communicate actually solves most of the problems...that is it should be between the man and woman...not the entire set up of his/her family considerations end of the day...man woman should be happy...not to result in a damaged child between...

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ironically in India the parents too have not learnt to let their children be ...they seek....returns for what they did to the child...no one forced them to....and then why did they do so much that they brought themsleves to be under the mercy of thier children, why did they not save for them selves instead of blowing their lives for children and expecting returns?

The entire Geography/Pathology of our social system needs to be redefined i feel...

Sometimes, Sound hurts more than words...it is a brilliant way to communicate with each other on paper...and when you do so...suddenly you will feel the real you flowing...anger, unhappiness, even LOVE, the facts will glare back on your face, it perhaps has been suppressed by anger, and the door is shut....reopen it...find the meaning why you got together?

Warring couples can not give their child a good future life. So if both of u r not confidengt tomove togather in life due to major differences pending b/w......for what future of child u r thinking 2 reunite??

the wife threw full package of wedding gifts on u & u r talking about taking her back ??

fight her cases - 

and file for child custody.

@ Rajiv and Amit,

Mainly i am doing this for my Son futur and same time I want to prove that i have not committed any crime. 

In case if I dont take her back--->

how much percentage of chances i have about getting Child custody? How much time it takes to achive child custody? On what basis the court give me the custody of my son?

Please Answer.

Rajashekar

Originally posted by : Rajashekhar
	Dear fellow members,       Presently I am going through mediation in RCR case (filed by my wife). 498A and DV cases are also running parallel, during first mediation my wife and her family members started giving false allegations to mediator while I was listening, when I asked for the opinion I said about the other cases running so I cannot manage the family, as I am in immense pressure facing from job as well as court cases. I stay in pune and my cases are running in Bangalore. So there is lot of travelling is involved. But the mediator told me that if agree to take her back then she will also take all her cases back/ Quashing from HC whatever. I asked her what if there is further misunderstandings and clashes, What if she files some other cases against me (like rape case or attempt to murder). Even though my concern was genuine, But the Lady mediator was not listening and she was harsh. she was not even giving me chance to tell my side of problems. (I absolutely felt like, I am under military ruling by a lady commander) Actually I don’t want to surrender/ close cases based on MCD. Since It is related to my self esteem and self respect.  I want to fight and same time I have decided to take my wife back (keeping my 2 year old son future in mind). I am ready to face any kind of problems, but can’t surrender my self esteem in front of the society I am living with. I cannot live life like a dog. Either do (get my self esteem back) or die (with a pride)   My questions are (1) Does the family court allow me to do so?? (2) What are all other implications? If I go with this (3) If somebody faced 498A wife back into their life please guide me (if you don’t want to disclose in public forum) please send me PM.   (4) If she comes back, can I refuse to eat what she prepares and stay in a distance? Does that amounts to cruelty? Does that boost 498A / DV case? (5) Can I refuse to spend lavishly for her (that I use to do before)? Since she was working earlier can I ask her to work to support her lavish spending? Does that amounts to cruelty (6) Can ask her to sign a MCD which clearly mentioning the jewels given by her parents and my side before marriage (may be termed as Stridhan) be with her custody (presently in her custody, but she falsely says that she sold them given me to purchase a house) and I am not responsible for their custody. (7) In MCD can I mention that their parents and other relatives not to enter our house without my permission? But she can visit he parents once in a while not very frequently? -Rajashekar

Such a gentleman here, pleased to know that people like you still do exist on earth.

My questions are (1) Does the family court allow me to do so??

Yes it will

(2) What are all other implications? If I go with this

She might come back, with or without face, and still end up putting DV act case against you.

(3) If somebody faced 498A wife back into their life please guide me (if you don’t want to disclose in public forum) please send me PM.  

As far as my expeience of 7 years goes, nobody has accepted the 498a wife back, remember the humiliation, going to court, warrant issue, sitting inside lockup.  Answer is no, people seldom accept such a dangerous wife back, with kid or without kid 

(4) If she comes back, can I refuse to eat what she prepares and stay in a distance? Does that amounts to cruelty? Does that boost 498A / DV case?

Well you can refuse to eat, again she will do drama, shouting, etc might go back to mom's place and then file a case on you that you were illtreating her and put DV act case.

(5) Can I refuse to spend lavishly for her (that I use to do before)? Since she was working earlier can I ask her to work to support her lavish spending? Does that amounts to cruelty

Yes, you can refuse, then she would tell, you not taking good care of her etc and put DV case.

(6) Can ask her to sign a MCD which clearly mentioning the jewels given by her parents and my side before marriage (may be termed as Stridhan) be with her custody (presently in her custody, but she falsely says that she sold them given me to purchase a house) and I am not responsible for their custody.

Try and see, you can ask her to MCD, but I dont thnk she will sign it unless you pay her a million dollars in cash

(7) In MCD can I mention that their parents and other relatives not to enter our house without my permission? But she can visit he parents once in a while not very frequently?

Yes you can mention what not and all in the MCD, but MCD means mutual consent divorce, so aftar consent is obtained, and divorce awarded, and you both get copies of decree of divorce which you can frame and put it on a wall stating that you as well did recieve a Padmabhushana and she a Padmashri, I dont think any of her relatives would enter your place after the divorce is awarded.

Perhaps you fear that due to the kid they might end up coming to your place.

But this aint over there, custody of child case will go on if either one will pursue, meeting kid, take that as  another 3 years.

By the end of it when everything is in black and white, and the court orders as to who will keep the kid, when to see who all can go etc. You'd have come to know, how much of what you stated in your conditions did the court really accept .