Dear All.
I got married in 2010 to a man i thought was the my dream husband. but sadly within 9 months of marriage he and his family members kicked me out of the house as my father refused to transfer half of the propery that belongs to me onto his name. we come from a middle class family and gave 8 laks dowry and 40tolas of gold which is mine. my father has said that the property rightfully belongs to me and will not transfer it onto his name as my husband wanted to sell all myshare of property. prior to marriage my parents had told my husband and his family that no property will be transferd onto the boys name and they were fine with this. they acted so happy that they were getting me into the family they behaved as though they were the most lucky people in the world to have me as their daughter in law. but within 2 months of marriage my inlaws interferred in every aspect of matter between my husband and me including our private affairs. i am highly educated with a master in biotechonolgy from the UK and prior to marriage was earning 1.5 laks pm. but after marriage i decided to take a break for one year. after a few months my husband was having financial trouble, as he took a loan from the bank and did not pay any installements. he did not tell me any of his loans liabilities and after marriage told me he has loan of upto 20laks. i was very upset and told my parents, my parents told me to adjust and asked to me work and help my husband. i told my father in law i will start working, but he stopped me from workin and so did my husband, they threatened me that i should be a housewife, but before marriage they agreed for me to work and study after marriage. but after marriage everything changed. my mother inlaw used to keep all my gold in her locker and the locker name is in my father in laws name. she used to wear my gold and tell everyone it is hers. they threatened me that i should never take the gold to my mothers house. because of all the financial trouble my husband, my parents gave him a loan of 7 laks, where he agreed to repay back 30000pm. but he only paid 2 payments. my husband kicked me out of the house saying that he does not love me cause hes not getting any property or money. my father in law hit me and told me that if my parents dont give me them the property they will divorce me. i came back to my parents and filed a 498a case and dvc case. but my husband not attended a single court hearing for the dvc case and is now ex-parte. he has left to overseas dont know where and he comes and attends the 498a case. they have got a stay order for dvc case from high court. i would like to know and take advise on the following. i would like to go back to the UK and do my phd for which i got scholarship. they have kept all my streedhan cash and other gifts that belong to me. they refuse to return it to me.
1. is it absolutely neccessary for me attend every court hearing, but husband has evaded so many. can i make him run around like how he has made me. he is ex-parte now.
2. can i go overseas and study. will this cause any problem for maintaence and return of my streedhans. if they sold all my gold, can this be compensated?
3. how can i make sure he doesnt leave india? i want to solve this problem quickly and get on with my life.
4. i want to give divorce, but he is not coming forward to return my things or talk about divorce.he is not returning my emails, he has changed is number and i dont know how to contact him, his parents dont want to talk either. .
they have seemed to manage with every authority and bribe many people so they are safeguarded.
Please give advice. i am currently in process of getting stay order vacated.
