Originally posted by : Aley |
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Originally posted by : Helping Hand !
Originally posted by : Aley
If your answer vary accordingly then its about me getting married under SMA, sir.
GO to arya samaj or your area police station and ask them to get you married. They will get you married.
You are sh ite scared about letting know of marriage to your parents etc. That itself shows your parents are not agreeable to it. Such marriages wont last long. Somehow or other it will end. Marriages are done for sake of mainly,
Girl,
Society. TO show that you got married. Its a approval seeking way from society. No use in doing such marriage in police statoin or arya samaj or below some tree with few friends etc.
Dont take risk of marrying like this. If everybody agree then only marriage wont last a month these days. Dont risk your life with such stupid marriages. If your prents agree then only marry. Use hotel room if you are gagging for it, use ocndom. Dont mess your life, 10 days later she is somewehre yo uare roaming to police station with rape charges.
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Marriage in India is not a joke, it takes lot of money to get married, much more lot of money to get out of it. Your partner can be convinced otherwise that yourself admitting. In such case it becomes easy for ppl to do anything against your marriage.
Just tying mangalsutra is not marriage. Meeting of two minds is more important than meeting of penis and v**gina.
I want approval from law, not from society. Sati, Devdasi, Dahej, Untouchability etc were all creation of society. Marriage is not just about society or s*x, your definition is messed up, its about responsibilities and a sacred bond to enjoy each other's company and to create family and be together without escaping the responsibilities.
Too much assumption from your side. I simply don't want my girl to face unnecessary pressure or mental cruelty from her family otherwise i myself am a final semester law student. |
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You say your girl should not be troubled by her family. Why will her family trouble her? Simple reason is they are against her marrying you. Taunting, bad mouthing all these dont have remedy in law, you cant run to court filing cases even if you are a lawyer on her parents. Other thing is when parents of girls not happy with love marriage, how they have ended there are many cases all over the place for yourself to see.
Even though you are final sem law student you need to understand why 1 month mandatory waiting period has been introduced.
For this you need to understand intricate details of marriage itself. Why 1 month waiting perios is mandatory.
Good that you dont have thoughts about dowry etc. Marriage to be succesful not only needs understanding or being there for each other, which is vital once marriage ceremony is done, here each other families play vital role too in determining how your marriage is and survives. Your intentions of being together are novel. But these factors like willingness of families to your marriage are important not just for you but also for the children that you are going to have.
If someone is unwilling and are against your marriage, then they sure should have chance to speak up now ie before you tie the knot. To know whether anybody has any problem in you two marrying each other is the only reason why notices are served and waited upon until you hear from such if any.
Thats why in churches bans are announced prior to marriage date, and if church father does not rcv any objection form anyone, he will proceed with marrying the couple. Same is done by SDM ie sub divisional magistrate. SDM only ensures that you both should not have any problem in future, hence he will wait for 1 month, to see whether all is well among your families.
It just does not take courage to marry. Though it does, it seldom helps when parents are against such marriage.
Over and above all this you are Law student and must be aware of consequences if any. Remember, for matrimonail issues there is no remedy in court of Law.
Let sanity prevail. Wishing you both all the best.