Hello Everyone
I am new to this site & browsing through google i thought to get some ideas & tips on how to protect me & my family from my in laws & wife. My case is very complicated unless understand each & every phase which came through my life since my engagement Jan 2010.
Here it goes... Mine is an arrange marriage & everything were performed through muslim rituals. I met my wife before marriage in Jan 2010 & we soon got engaged the same month. Then decided to get marry in May 2010 after 5 months. The 5 months phase was not less than trauma. i.e. my wife had gone through heart surgery when she was 10 & it wasn't disclosed to me nor my parents. After engagement i started talking to my wife over phone & she disclosed this fact & when i asked her if the same is disclosed to my parents her answer was YES. Knowingly like a stupid i didnt cross check the same & after 10-15 days I happen to talk to parents & they say they are not aware of this fact. so my parents & her parents had a round table talk & they pleaded to forgive finally my dad accepted for the marriage if she is physically fit & till that time we didnt see any physical illness & she looked perfect. After that we moved on & it was almost April 2010 when she disclosed some of her past affairs & such facts which i couldnt tolerate. The reason i couldnt digest some parts of her was because in the begning she showed me a very gloomy & colourful picture of her side despite of me not asking anything about her past but their were many contradictory statements which forced me to pull out the truth from her mouth & finally she said many truths which were actually lie earlier. Also during the same period she showed me her body stitch marks which she never disclosed to me nor my parents & looking at all these things i was grately pissed off & i decided firmly not to marry her at any cost. this was April 2010. Then one fine day she comes home alone without informing me with a bottle of finyale & drank it. So i had to take her to the hospital & get her medicated and also the police stuff came up but everything was handled as my inlaws are very influential guys. During the phase before marriage we never had any physical relation or premarital s*x with each other. After the finayle incident my parents were very adamant to break up the marriage but one of their far relatives called my parents & said if you are not accepting the girl then theirs parents & brothers are very influential ppl & they can do anything. with a fear of this not notifying to me about this call my parents pressurized me tremendously for the marriage & i gave up disheartendly. Finally the marriage took place & i took my bride to my house. I was recovering from the past issues & also helpd her to start a new stuff but though it was very difficult. I left her to my house & i went in a different city for my job. After 15-20 days she fell ill badly & was bedrest for straight two months. she had stomach ache/mental problems/shouting/crying for unknown reason. finally my parents called her parent & her brother to take her back & heal her as you all said that the girl is physically fit. finally after some calls there they came in & took her along with them for treatment. Now its been more than 1 year that I am staying seperated with my wife waiting for her to get healed. It was noticed that she has had many mental issues like demanding for divorce at times & at times denying for divorce, phone call fightings, using abusive language. It was feb 2011 that she recoverd a from her mental health issue & her father started demanding to take her back to her husbands house. But me talking to my wife & her sister in law they said that she is not completely well & needs more time to heal but at the same time demanding for no reason to take her back. I didnt quite responded to it because she had the same mental problem of getting aggressive, demanding for divorce at times, using abusive language & changing the opposite in the next minute. From feb 2011 till date we have been having constant fight on phone. she accepts that she is not fit at all physically & mentally though she wants to live with me now no matter what despite me giving her promises to take some more time & get well & i will take you back. It was july when my parents went to see her at her home & she had a huge quarrel with my parents with full disrespect to take me back after hearing all these i too got impatient & said i will never take her back home. It was in Aug when she , & her family members visited my house without any prior intimation & demanding to keep her with you & we are not taking her back with us. She is also been threatening of suicide if i dont keep her or dont take her back. seeing this I secretly went to nearby police stn & made NC complaint against them. finally they took her back along with them. It was some days after this incident that me & my wife had phone fights & i said that i will divorce you if you dont stop mental torture & dont keep patience. Finally they made a big step of again coming to my house with a police & a lawyer. Her father had false claim saying we are demanding for dowry & cash money, also stating that this was a love marriage & not an arrange marriage. But the police officer knew about the complaint i made a week ago so he asked them to cool down & solve the matter at home rather than in court or police stn.
Guys after all this i had approached some lawyers in my city & in my inlaws city but all the lawyers show a very easy win in this issue but i am not satisfied with their claims. I honestly dont want to continue with my wife as she is still unstable & not in proper mental condition or physical condition. After all the above things which happend & also using false claims against us i am no more in mood to compromise on the situation. I need sincere answers as to how do i proceed keeping me & my family members safe. My in laws are very influential guys infact very very influential. If they have to spoil my career using false claims & its not a big deal for them. I have been quite often on busines travel to other countries & on this my wife stated i will spoil ur work & career & make sure you never come up again.
According to islamic shariah I can divorce her very easily by giving her in writing or speaking talaq in front of two witness. but the only which is bothering me is false claims they can put against me & my family . I have many call recordings & videos which we took while to keep ourselve safe as we knew these ppl are going to turn away from anything if something goes wrong in future.
Please give me honest & sincere suggestion as I really dont know how I should proceed
regards
