1. We got MCD in the year 2008 Jan. I am single. He got married again.
My take: Thank you now the thread has become clear.
2. I had a dummy advocated appointed by his advocate
My take: Ok, understood a proxy advocate curtsey him. But, it was not necessary as a common Advocate can be hired by both petitioners to MCD.
3. If i claim for maintenance now am i eligible? will it effect custody? he earns more than 1.5lakh per month
My take: Depending on your education / working not working and his ability / income the "compensation" can be decided by competent Court. No. it will not affect custody suit at all.
4. I am sending my child in my ex husbands home every week in my hometown. But my ex husband lives in another metro. So only 4 times a year he meets his son...since he works there
My take: If you are following the terms and conditions of visitation and he meets the child 4 times a year then you should not be panicky about good boarding school issues. Infact you will get more choice to meet child during longer vacations and middle vacations too and since he is meeting 4 times a year so probably he may not change his style which you only can answer.
5. I agreed at that point of time as situation was different. He verbally told me child will stay with me...he would like to have live in relationship with me. When i denied within 6 months he filed for custody...then now hostel..
My take: You know the situation at that time and there is no need to tell all here in a public forum what was that compelling reason so I leave it just like that. Concerning live in relationship kindly read my thoughts in such situation cooly i.e. if couples not in better relationship and marriage on docks then better to part calmly using MCD (as you both exactly did) and remain "friends" since a child is also there. Probably he meant that and since he being from Mars and your ladyship from Venus it got lost into translation, however, I will resist further says here for the sake of public forum modesty. Now, just because you refused and such refusal followed with MCD and now when time for good boarding house comes you should also think aloud that you remained single till now whereas the man who was once your husband after offering live in to ex wife choose to quickly got remarried and also sired a child out of second marriage so there may be some communication gap somewhere which only you two can sort out amicably (chances are there because I as a neutral person don't see some masalas in between you two so far) and I am still doubtful on "custody petition motive" because so far whatever briefs you gave I don't see if both of you agreed anywhere as to who will have the physical custody and who will get visitation I mean sub para wise so may be in my opinion he just want the child to be put in a good boarding school as fulfillment of his agreement of MCD part and will still be OK with 4 times a year visitation part.
Now you may if you like tell what are his "specific" PRAYER (only prayer part) paras in his presently filed custody suit so that some more clarity may come on this thread to make further comment if you may like so.
Also you may tell if you both still in reasonable good talking terms, I suppose you both are because there are those "masalas" still missing from all these replies so far so I am making a wild guess which I know I am not supposed to make but kabhi kabhi chalega..... !
Anything else to resolve this good boarding school apprehensions !