My Iranian wife of 12 years(!) wants divorce. Her reason is that we are not compatible. I haven't still been able to be at peace with this.
She is not currently staying with me and moved out 3 weeks ago, but is staying with yer younger sister, who is in India for studies.
At the beginning after she moved out, she demanded for money worth of 14 gold coins which is her meher (by Iranian-Islam law, which is supposed to be given to her any time she demands). She mentioned that the 1 Lakh rupees I transferred to her, and other expenses that I bore recently for her US visa interview trip, can be deducted and the rest of the money ( 14 bahareh azadi gold coins minus 1 Lakh rupees minus say 25k expenses) can be paid to her.
But now, she has stepped up her demand. She is now "requesting" for half my assets which according to her is half the worth of the plot that we bought earlier and is under my name. Though she "requests", she indicates that if I follow her suggestion, then her dad in Iran will initiate a divorce procedure which will fall under the category of "divorce with mutual consent" and then they will send us copies which can be signed by us, and used as a proof of separation/divorce. But then, if I do not follow her request, she says her dad will initiate another procedure instead, which will require me to go to Iran and be present in court and fight it out there.
According to the marriage certificate (and also mentioned at times by my wife), if it is the wife that wants to quit, then she is eligible to the meher only. But, there are conditions under which the wife can still demand up to half the assets, and that is when the husband has demonstrated traits that aren't good (covered as 12 instances in the marriage certificate, some examples being desertion, misconduct or harmful association, etc.).
Now, I am fearing that if I do not abide by her "requests", she and her dad might wrongly frame me under one of the 12 instances, and put me in trouble.
I need some good advice that I can handle this situation right. Expecting a quick and valid response.
We haven't registered our marriage in India. The marriage was registered in a lawyer's office (who is eligible to conduct marriages) and in the presence of a religious head, with the immediate family witnessing the same.
