Ever heard of problems faced by men? Sounds obnoxious and fictitious straight out a crooked minded author's imagination? This is a reality, ask anyone about problems faced by women and the list would never seem to end, but the same question asked for men draws blank faces. The world around us occurs to us the way we truly wish to see it. Our worst fears come true in life for sure.
One of the foremost reasons why the society is oblivious to men's problems is because men fear self-expression and can't see themselves as expressive and when it comes to relationships men find it extremely difficult and confronting to take extreme stands the way women take. This inhibition slowly becomes a way men see the world around them and ultimately cannot express.
It is a story they create in their minds and its creation is attributed to their logical nature and tendency to analyze everything. Men, by nature of design are result oriented and always analyze the result (from their own perspective and experience) before doing anything. While this may be a good practice in business but not for relationships, since relationships dynamics are non-linear. Too much analysis leads to creative paralysis.
Because of their analysis and their quest for logic in everything they do, ultimately men become a victim of, what I call as LOOKING GOOD SYNDROME which leads them to inhibitive of many things and stops them from being creative and strategic at the same time. Their analysis and logic makes men straight thinking, non-manipulative, being non-vague, reasonable and predictable.
All the above qualities are extremely dangerous and make men vulnerable. However, men do not realize this and refuse to take a stand which is vague, unreasonable and justified and thus it is never expected that a man will ever break his image which makes the possibility of abuse of men by the society fairly high.
However, this is a perception and not a reality. The analysis that men do in order to protect their image being a victim of the LOOKING GOOD SYNDROME is nothing but a result of them being a prisoner of their own minds wherein they become imprisoned in their own created stories and ultimately feel frustrated because their analysis leads them to put a lot of checks and balances in their moves due to which their strategic stand is weakened.
The day men are able to break this mental barrier by defeating themselves (which can be extremely uncomfortable for them with the current mental hardwiring), men will be liberated and they will no longer be treated as second class citizens, the way they are being treated now. Moreover this transformation will make men more vocal, fearless, bold and closer to their experiential domain which will ultimately lead to a better deal for them in relationships as well.
Only if men could defeat themselves, break the shackles of their own minds, and stop being
Prisoners of their own mind,
many issues of men would have been resolved by now like no protection for them in relationships, especially marriage, no protection from s*xual harassment, and the other kind of biases that they face in addition to emotional castration from the age of 6.
