My name is Navdeep Singh. I am a NRI living in Calgary, Canada. I immigrated to Canada June 25th, 2011. Recently I returned to India to get married under the guidance of my loving family. I married on December 2nd, 2012 at Bathinda, Punjab. The reason I am writing this email is that I feel I have a case of fraud with relation to my wife’s drug addiction.
I have come to find about her drug addiction soon after the marriage. A couple of days after our marriage, we left for Goa on our honeymoon. I found her taking tablets on a daily basis and after questioning her, she provided various excuses such as headaches, allergies etc. Later on I contacted a pharmacy regarding the true nature of the pills she was taking and found out that these were common under two circumstances. They were either abused recreationally or given to patients who are attempting to forgo heroine (smack) addiction. In my case, unfortunately, it is both. She is abusing medicines such as Tramadol and other Benzodiazepine based drugs. I found the following tablets in her bag on multiple occasions; Tramzit-P, Atilclon Beta, Psypose-2, Nitrosun-10. I attempted to warn her and stop her for the very first time in Goa itself by taking the tablets away and throwing them in the garbage. However she continued to abuse the pills by hiding them in her shoes, wallet and clothes in the closet. I have taken pictures and videos of the medicines and where I found them.
On return from our honeymoon, I found government admittance receipts with the aforementioned drugs written with a two month prescriptttion from a civil hospital Bathinda (dated August and September, 2012). These receipts were dated well before the marriage and were not revealed to me or my family. Under such circumstances, I was naturally cautious and more aware of her actions from that point onwards. A few days after, she left her facebook open on the laptop at home and I tried to go through her messages expecting to find something related to her drug abuse. During my search, I found ample evidence that linked her to substance abuse over the past year or so with different individuals. There were conversations in which she has stated to being admitted in a hospital and her parents being aware of the situation. This conversation then allowed me to make sense of the government receipts I had found beforehand. She clearly mentions in her conversations that she was in a relationship with an individual in Bathinda and had a strong desire to marry him. Her plan was to go overseas on a student visa and make her own decisions independent of her family. Her conversations then go onto say that her parents found out about her addiction to heroine(smack) and admitted her to a hospital. Over time, the family decided with her permission to marry her off in an arranged marriage and unfortunately I came into the picture.
Additionally, there are issues of extra-marital affair and marriage of convenience. On multiple occasions after our marriage, I heard her talking to the same individual over the phone in our bed while I was sleeping in the early hours of the morning. I woke up after I heard her whispering under the blankets. When I confronted her about the issue, I was yelled at and told to mind my own business. I have also found conversations on facebook which involved the idea of convenient marriage as her friend suggested to get married and make her own decisions after a year or 2 (implying the completion of permanent residence process in Canada).
After all this, I had to leave India to resume my job in Canada and I arrived here last week. The issue at hand is that she is currently residing at my parents’ house and has controlled access to the outside world and suffers from immense mood swings and other behavioral issues, possibly due to the withdrawal effects. She continues to take pills living at my house and the source of her supply is unknown. I have some clue to where she might obtain them from but I am not 100% sure. I and my parents have not mentioned anything to her or her family as that might risk some form of unpredictable behavior. My parents and my younger sister are worried for their immediate safety due her unpredictable outbursts. We have not told her to go home as we are not sure of what should be the next step in the process.
I have discussed this with a local lawyer and have decided to file for divorce on grounds of fraud. The lawyer also mentioned that, if we discuss this openly with the family, there are chances that they might build a case against all this based on false grounds including various allegations. Due to the nature of this case, I feel it is in my best interest to gather evidence and consult the appropriate authorities before proceeding with any communication or actions. I feel this is the crux of the issue where the family and she were aware of the drug abuse and addictions, yet there was no mention of it before or after the wedding. Due to my marriage being arranged, I feel honesty in areas related to health and substance abuse is vital to constitute a fair marriage.
The current situation is a nightmare for me and I require your urgent attention and professional advice on how to proceed further. I am open to discuss the situation in more detail and provide evidences gathered so far. I am a firm believer in the truth prevailing and will go to any lengths to assist you with your investigation process. I am looking forward to hearing back from you as soon as you can and would be eternally grateful for any help provided.
