I think I understand the psychology of your wife, and I can make an attempt to suggest a solution, but if I explain it to you here, then other 498a wives may read it and I have some reason for which I do not want them to read it. Send me a private message,
Mujhe aap ki biwi ki dimagi prakriya samajh mein aa gayi hai, aur main aap ko raasta batane ki koshish kar sakta hoon. aap mujhe private message bhejo. Main nahin chahta ke main yahan par jawab likhoon aur doosri 498a biwiyan usse padh lein. main kisi kaaran vash nahin chahta ki aisi auratein mere jawab ko padhein.